We just started seeing each other, because we kinda grew up together in the same neighborhood. We just talk and remember the good ole days.
2006-12-27 07:05:37 · 48 answers · asked by bluemist 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ABSOLUTELY!!
2006-12-27 07:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I personally do not think so. The time you are putting into that relationship you could be putting into the marriage.
There must be something lacking in the marriage or you two would not be spending so much time together.
How do your spouses feel about all this time you are spending with each other? Or do they know you are spending so much time together?
It is nice to talk of the good old days, however not all the time, "we just started seeing each" is used by single people.
Give it some time and your spouses will have a problem with it....not worth it in my eyes.....
2006-12-27 07:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Be careful of the jealousy factor. If you start spending more time reminiscing with your old friend then you do talking to your husband, he may get jealous. Questions start going through his head "Why does she spend so much time with him? Am I not good enough for her? Am I not interesting enough for her? Etc..." Once that starts, even if your relationship with your friend is completely innocent, problems will start to arise within your relationship.
Why don't you invite both your husband and his wife out for dinner sometime. Give them both a chance to get to know you and your husband as a couple. That may ease some of the jealousy that could occur if only you and your friend spend time together.
2006-12-27 07:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by albion53151 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's doable, but there will most likely be resentment from the spouses of the 'best friends'.
Usually, to show you love your spouse and cherish them, you lay low on the strength of that 'best friendship' because your spouse is supposed to be your best friend.
If you don't see the problem of this type of friendship - it can turn into a problem. Apparently you're wondering along those lines - which furthers the fact that something is amiss.
2006-12-27 07:10:19 · answer #4 · answered by pounding_silence 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sure it's possible, but you have to be very careful that your "best of friends" doesn't become your "friend with benefits". I would suggest making your friend your spouse's friend as well. And become friends with your buddy's spouse so that everybody knows there is nothing hidden and nothing inappropriate.
If you ever get to the point where you don't tell your spouse about your conversations and/or meetings with your friend, then you've stepped over the line and are heading for trouble.
2006-12-27 07:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by Oppenheimer 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, lets think of the other spouses feelings. It's fine to catch up, and remember the old days - but how will your spouse feel knowing that you'd rather reminicse, than live in the now with them. ? I personally would not approve - your spouse should be your best friend - not someone else of the opposite sex. I'm old school and find it inappropriate.
2006-12-27 07:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Nope. Absolutely not. Women like to think they can have male friends, but they can't. Think real hard about why not. Keep thinking. Almost there.
Yup, that's right. At some point (much sooner than later, believe me) he'll want to screw you. Period. Married, single, it doesn't matter. Sorry to burst your chick bubble, but women cannot have male friends. It's simply called being a dick tease.
2006-12-27 07:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Exactly. You got together once, you talked end of story. No, you can not continue a best friend relationship with a member of the opposite sex if you are married. Sorry, that's my opinion. It spells a recipe for trouble. Your mate is now your confidant. Find a special g/f that can relate to things that hubby can't.
2006-12-27 07:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
How does your spouse feel about it? Did you tell him that you want to hang out with an old friend and that this old friend is a guy?If he's cool about it than absoulatly hang out.But if your keeping this friendship a secret from your husband than there's might be more to this and you have alot to think about ,But you should not keep this a secret from your husband.It could get ugly...Good luck
2006-12-27 07:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by Ms.Pickle 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Almost "best of friends". Your husband should be your BEST friend in the wold and vise verse! (but of course in too many marriages that isn't the case)
Personally, if I had a wife, she could have as many others friends, male or female as she wanted to. The question is: is your husband mature and secure enough with himself to allow you to have male "friends" without becoming jealous or argumentative.
2006-12-27 07:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Male female frndhip is possible,but there has to be a sort of repulsion of some kind for eachother.Too much proximity and attraction destroys the platonic affair.
2006-12-27 07:08:32 · answer #11 · answered by aquarian 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋