They've been together for almost 2 years now. In the beginning they seemed very meant for eachother. Then they went off to college in seperate states where he proceeded to be with other girls, have a "busy" schedule with all his friends (he can't say no to anybody) and never took the time to call her, message her or let her know he's missing her. They got back together spring break and all he did was use her for sex and a place to sleep. After going back to school AGAIN he pulled the same tricks as last time...this has gone on all 2 years of their relationship. Every time they meet up again it's for sex and him telling her how wonderful she is (so he can get what he wants) because he knows that's what she wants to hear. He now is flirting with her roomate right in front of her eyes. When I tried to tell her, she said to me that they've only met three times, they're never going to be compatible that way and so on.
2006-12-27 06:50:36 · 6 answers · asked by GrayMatters 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't have the heart to just be mean to her about it, she's very blindly in love with him. He'll only hurt her in the end...and I have a feeling something's between him and the roomate..my boyfriend even noticed. Also..every conversasion he gets into turns to a conversasion about himself.. selfish A**hole
2006-12-27 06:52:34 · update #1
If she really cares for the guy. she won't listen to you and will probably get mad at you for saying things about him. Is it possible that she doesn't really expect any more out of her relationship with him? Maybe she isn't ready for marriage and sees the guy as some convenient fun for her too. Maybe she thinks if she stands by him while he sows his wild oats he will turn to her when he is ready to settle down.
I think you should just be her friend and say nothing, not even when she comes crying to you about how he has hurt her as they could always get back together. Try to let her know that she is a great person. Try to encourage her to get out and do things without him - take up new hobbies and make new friends. If she develops some self confidence and meets more people, she may figure out that she deserves someone better than him without you having to risk your friendship by telling her.
2006-12-27 07:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by AmyU 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can tell her and point out the obvious but if she doesn't want to see it she won't. I have the same problem with a friend and it's been 8 years for her and she still doesn't get it. She has even caught him cheating and she just keeps going back for more.
2006-12-27 14:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by sassssy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let this be, as much as you think you'll be helping your friend by letting her know what is going on. She can recent you and think of it as jealousy on you part. You seem really worry about her, maybe you should talk to him and let him know that you know what he is doing and you don't think is cool...so he should be the one to tell her. Getting involved in other people's relationships is not a good idea. Even if you mean well don't get involved.
2006-12-27 14:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your friend wants to be decieved by this guy or she would have done something about it already. its weird but some people just don't want to see whats going on around them. shes obviously one of them. its not your job to make sure she doesn't make mistakes though, all you can do is be there for her when the s*** hits the fan. GOOD LUCK shes lucky to have a friend who cares so much about her.
2006-12-27 15:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be honest with her, thats what friends are for. If you care about her than tell her.
2006-12-27 15:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by goodfella150 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-27 14:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋