The person that is a combination of the two is better. Someone that will push you to better yourself but at the same time realize you aren't perfect and somethings are a part of who you are. When you meet that person, you will know they are the one for you! ;-) Good luck!
2006-12-27 06:46:49
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answered by melspags6 4
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There is a happy medium between the two! There are certain aspects of peoples' personalities that cannot be changed, and if a person can't accept those aspects... a relationship between the two simply won't work out.
However, no one ever reaches their full potential; friends/lovers should recognize where there is room for growth and encourage forward movement in that area.
If we're talking which extreme is better than the other? Nothing beats the feeling of acceptance.
2006-12-27 07:04:38
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answered by Val 2
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Someone who loves and accepts you as you are without trying to change you is better. An intelligent person knows that true change comes from within, and one will only really change if they want to. When someone tries to change you for the "better", it may be their idea of better, but it may not be yours. We ALL have faults, none of us is perfect. A true friend will leave you alone and let you be you, faults and all.
2006-12-27 06:53:09
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answered by kj 7
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A person the excepts you for your faults. A person should want to change certain things on their own. For instance, people stop smoking or drinking because they want to.
Look at it this way, if a person changes one thing, it is matter of time before they change something else. A person that is trying to change you for the "better" is doing it for themselves and not for you. Not to condesend, but what is the definition of "better?" My answer is, so they look good. Example: "If he dresses like this then my family and friends will like him more" or "If I stop her from going out with her friends it will look like I have her in check, even though the club was the place I met her."
A person that loves you will take you as you are and you will either change on your own or they will adapt or you will go your own way. The one time I can see someone attempting to change you or you change them is if it will ultimitely save your/their life.
2006-12-27 06:55:32
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answered by BionicNahlege 5
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I think the person who accepts you with all your faults. Nobody is perfect, everyone has faults, and as well as the intentions are of the person who tries to change you, nobody can make another person change. The motivation to change has to come from within yourself.
2006-12-27 07:15:41
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answered by kristin c 4
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A person who accepts my faults and tries to change faults that really need changing.
2006-12-27 06:47:01
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answered by Anonymous
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I think there needs to be a balance of the 2- You need someone who accepts you the way you are but will give you the encouragement and understanding you need to be the best you can be. Does that make sense? You don't want to be with someone who settles for the minimum when you have potential to be more, not perfect, but more.
2006-12-27 06:49:01
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answered by love_n_hate84 2
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The person who accepts you with all your faults. The person who wont accept you will never be happy and you'll be jumping through hoops trying to please that person. This will affect your self-esteem because you'll start feeling like if you're not good enough for this person, then you'll not got enough for anybody.
2006-12-27 06:49:06
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answered by gloried 3
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I think that the person who accepts you for who you are. Changing someone for the good is nice for yourself, but is it really nice for the person? I don't think so.
2006-12-27 07:20:36
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answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5
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A good friend can say anything to you (supposedly!). If he or she can see ways in which you're holding yourself back or hurting yourself, then he or she might feel like pointing those out to you.
But someone who can gently do that as well as accepting you for who you are would be ideal!
2006-12-27 06:48:38
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answered by 60s Chick 6
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