but, they act all suprised when their husbands cheat? Do people not realize that the act of cheating takes place in the mind first and then in the physical. Can I get A witness?
2006-12-27 06:40:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How can any woman say when their husband looks at other naked women having sex in their own home it is normal. Does that make it normal for women to be in porno as well?
2006-12-27 06:51:03 · update #1
To James, the porn addict-
The question was NOT whether pornography is right or wrong. The issue is how we approach it in our everyday lives.
2006-12-27 06:55:32 · update #2
You are absolutely right. For those who don't understand it and think its fine, consider this. Porn is a destructive psychological addiction. Its like cocaine, you can never get it out of your mind once you are addicted. It affects the pleasure zones the same way. The brain scans of cocaine addicts and porn addicts have similar signatures when they are exposed to their respective catalyst. The problem with porn, just like with cocaine, is that the addict can never get enough of it and wants more and more. This is why porn addicts spend countless hours on the internet just searching and searching for the perfect picture, never quiet satisfied. It gets to a point where you are so consumed by your fantasies, that you want to materialize them. Thats when a porn addict is open to cheating the moment the opportunity comes. Also, another huge side effect, is that real life women stop being interesting enough, because you start comparing them to your favorite "perfect" porn stars.
2006-12-27 06:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by joesecretive 1 · 5⤊ 2⤋
And here we go again. Cheating is not simply looking at porn, nor is it the physical act of sex itself. Cheating is much more involved than that. It is a betrayal of trust. Many couples enjoy viewing porn together. There are also swingers. In neither of these examples, would it be considered cheating. There's no lies or deception involved. If someone is hiding their porn, then there may be cause for concern. If it's out in the open, and all parties involved are in agreement, then there's no harm. The same argument has been used to espouse the "evils" of homosexuality, the spread of STD's, as well as a host of other acts considered by some to be "immoral".
Pleasuring yourself to the viewing of pronography isn't going to cause you to go out and cheat on your spouse. You'll do that all on your own, regardless of whether or not you look at porn, if you're so inclined.
In response to your comment that the act of cheating takes place first in the mind, I totally agree. It does, in fact, begin in the mind and heart. It does not, however, have anything to do with sexually explicit materials. Looking at porn is a very natural thing for us men to do, as we are visually stimulated much more so than our female counterparts.
The viewpoint you display is very narrow minded and, if I may be so bold, draconian in nature. You are throwing too many people into too few categories. Not all men who look at porn cheat, neither do all men who cheat, look at porn.
The bottom line is that whatever boundaries exist in a marriage, are up to the individuals involved in said marriage to decide. Not a church, nor an individuals moral objections, and most certainly not the government.
2006-12-27 15:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by mike w 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well.. Honestly I have been in a relationship and that's all he is interested in. Just something visually different once in a while and I would rather him just look it up on the internet where it is a picture, than in real life. It all depends on how good of a relationship you have and how much trust is there because if a guy is going to cheat, he is going to cheat whether he looks at porn or not.
2006-12-27 14:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by love_n_hate84 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I was in 5 yr live in relationship to man that was addicted to porn. It made me sick and caused alot of fights. We had a great sex life but I always felt like I was competing with the women he watches. Or that maybe he was thinking of the porn women while making love to me.
Now.....I am with a man who isn't an addict and we will share sometimes. Like we can go rent a porn movie and watch it TOGETHER and it doesn't bother me at all. In fact I enjoy watching with him. SO what I say to you is this....if he is unwilling to give it up, perhaps watch it together. Could even improve your sex life together.
2006-12-27 15:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are so right! To me, looking at porn is a form of cheating. But if both the husband and the wife have an understanding and say it's okay to look at porn then I guess it's okay. I think it's up to each individual person. Everybody's situation is different.
2006-12-27 14:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The freak that said "Cheating is doing" is wrong. A guy can cheat by just lusting after woman. Looking at porn is not "ok" or "normal". The woman that said that is probably jsut insecure or scared. Porn is wrong.
2006-12-27 14:49:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
The women I've known that condone their husbands watching porn are sort of afraid to rock the boat that they are in... They don't want to say anything to upset their relationship... They suffer from a lot of insecurity in themselves... Just my observations...
2006-12-27 14:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by deakjone 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're a retard, the act of cheating is physically doing it with someone else. Looking at a picture does not make you cheat. Watching a movie does not make you cheat. Sticking your c**k in someone else makes you a cheater. Not porn.
2006-12-27 14:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by bkweeks2000 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
i think porn is fine, i look at it with my man it can add to your sex life, If a couple have been togeather long, sex gets boring then the cheating starts, you have to keep it fresh
2006-12-27 14:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by smurf_punky 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because they can't stop him, anyway, so they have to justify it somehow. If they admit it hurts their feelings, they think it makes them look insecure or controlling. So, they say they don't mind.
2006-12-27 15:16:37 · answer #10 · answered by Lotus 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋