2006-12-27 06:33:15 · 53 answers · asked by dastacy6754 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok this is why i ask. I do love him but I don't feel the same way I used to. He does not abuse me. I am the financial caretaker of the household. He is very affectionate but when we are together I just feel like I am with my brother and not my husband. I don't really know how to explain it. I feel like I am cheating him on this relationship. He puts more into it and I just can't. He is a real great guy but I don't feel the same way he does. Can you help with this?
2006-12-27 06:54:28 · update #1
If you don't....who will?
2006-12-27 06:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dee, since you came up with the reason of why your so unhappy, What I would do is speak to your spouse. You say he does not abuse you and he is really a great guy.
Again I am going to say.. Be true to yourself. Be honest and open about your feelings. If he is truely what you say he is.. a great guy.. then he will understand how you are feeling. Looks like there is some depression going on there. I would seek advice from a counselor and mostly talk with him, your spouse. Before you go off and leave him, you need to have communication on how your feeling. That is so important no a days with so little time with each other. Communication is your key to making your decision. Like I said yesterday, your decision that you make is truely yours however if you tell him how your feeling and what your thinking.. if he is as understanding and great as you say he is.. he will understand and hear you. You need to make sure you talk with him.. if you dont your setting yourself up for a major fall that you may not be able to get out of. Especially if you truely find out he really is the one for you after you talk.. Leaving and not telling him how you feel will just hurt more. Atleast this way you will know that you communicated your feelings and you will be happier in the long run. GL girl.. my prayers are with you
Dee, I wish you luck and happiness. Above all... Be true to yourself. You should never feel like you are traped in a relationship and just by asking that question you are abviously not happy. Seek some advice and speak with your spouse. Either way, your happiness is on the line.
Blaze
2006-12-27 06:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you should.Staying married gives you respect in the eyes of people around you. It makes a woman complete. Marriage is a ladder every men & women likes to climb, you are there why do you want to fall from the ladder? If you leave your husband you will still come looking for another one later, how are you sure you will get the right one. is good for your children to have one father than different daddies. Whoever you will meet after leaving your husband ones he knows you were divorced he will have a ? mark on you, which is not healthy in a relationship.Even if he says is ok but deep in his mind that ? mark will still be there. One day if you have a fight he will insult you with that. So please try and work it out with your HUSBAND.
2006-12-27 06:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is this a magic 8 ball or something? Provide some details or something, marriage and divorce is not to be taken lightly. Without knowing your situation, have you tried counseling? If not, you should, unless you are in a dangerous or harmful situation, then get the heck out.
2006-12-27 06:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No if you feel like this you should leave and explain to him why and that you just don't feel the same anymore and make a clean break from him
2006-12-27 07:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by james g 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No way to answer this without details. For example:
Do you still love him?
Does he treat you well?
Does he listen when you speak to him?
Is he physically affectionate w/you?
Would you feel better off without him than with him?
Only you can decide.
2006-12-27 06:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not enough information to answer the question. In some cases, I would say no and in others yes. Ask again later.
2006-12-27 06:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's not really the question.
it's how can i change my relationship so that it is tolerable.
the current situation will not work.
it is up to you to change it.
so get busy.
first off get the book "getting the love you want" and start those practices. you can change the relationship. i promise.
study nonviolent communication (marshall rosenberg) and tantra. learn techniques for changing your response and behavior which will change the relationship. you can do it on your own and be happy. you need to change yourself and the relationship, not just decide whether to put up with it or leave. those are not your only two options.
2006-12-27 06:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm thinking some more information might be helpful to those of us taking time to answer your question otherwise we are just as reliable as a "Magic Eight Ball".
2006-12-27 06:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by Love2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What kinda question is this??? At least tell us the story or something.But going on the limited information you gave me I would say that only you know your circumstances and only you can make the decision.
2006-12-27 06:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by younglakshmimittal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's the problem. Depends if he is hurting you , cheating on you, not treating you right, or is not treating you like he is interested in you. If so , I think you should not stay with him if he is doing some of those things.
2006-12-27 06:37:22 · answer #11 · answered by Crystal:) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋