the whole scenario but brief. we've been married for almost 5 yrs. ever since, i told my wife that we should move out and get our own space, because sooner or later, i might get into conflict with my in-laws. That day came yesterday, the fact that my sister-in-law have rabbits in our apartment, and she lets it out of the cage, which i don't mind but bringing it to the other rooms where my son always stay is not okay for me. so i told her nicely the night before the confrontation, to just confine your rabbits in your own room, guess what, the next morning, it's in the other room again, so i got mad and the confrontation started from there. i told her, even if you clean it up, there's still furs, urine or anything, that your eyes wouldn't in the carpet, and try to lick the carpet, you'll get some furs sticking on your tongue. so, after that, my wife's sister moved out, and said she'll choose to go with them, if they move.....and we have a son......what should i do?
2006-12-27 06:29:39 · 13 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For one thing, the rabbit. Do you know what type of damage their urine does to floors? You might want to lift your carpet and take a look man. Its bad! You had the right to tell her not to let the rabbit run free through your home. That's just plain nasty! It is your home not the sister-in-laws. As for the wife....I think she has some underlying issues here. Perhaps some issues that are not out in the open. You as the husband and the child should come first before her sister or anyone else for that matter. She walked out on you because of a ****** rabbit and her sister? How selfish and childish is that? She cannot even put her own child above that? What kind of mother is she? You need to sit and have a good long talk with her and find out wtf her problem is. Do not let people walk all over you like that.
2006-12-27 06:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you didnt say anything about ur wife's age....if she is a mature person, she cant agree with her sister.. but..for other side, it seems as you still didnt talk with your wife about that.So.............i think that first you have to do is to talk with ur wife and give her the reasons you had to ask ur sister in law to keep the rabbits on her room inside the cage. Your son is the main reason for that.
You are right..........Kids in my school, had rabbits, they are so cute, but are so much dirty also. The smell after some days is horrible if you dont keep them clean, and need open spaces.....not apartment rooms.
For the mental health from everyone...move from that place if you can pay for your own. You'll have a better relationship with them once you have ur own place, and your wife wont be "between 2 fires" as commonly is said.
My best wishes............good luck.........and
HAPPY NEW YEAR..........in a new apartment
2006-12-27 14:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by حلاَمبرا hallambra 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let her go, she does not value her own immediate family, husband and son should come before any rabbit and any sister. She has some issues, she needs to grow up. She still considers herself a sister and a daughter, but not a wife and a mother. I would say help her carry her bags. She should not be threatening you for her sister. Help her carry her bags and tell her you will see a lawyer right after she leaves. Because anyone she tell this sobing story to will laught in her face. You married to a girl and not a women, maybe spending time away from you and her son will help her grow into woman.
2006-12-27 14:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You’ve been married for 5 years and the entire time you’ve lived with her family? WHY? Dude, you should have done something about this situation LONG AGO.
You’ve got two choices—cave in or stand your ground. Sounds like you’ve been caving in for 5 years now (assuming that you’re living with her family merely because SHE wants it) and where has it gotten you? It might be time to stand your ground.
And by the way, your request in this situation was completely reasonable, and I certainly hope that the confrontation was handled in a mature manner and didn’t escalate to a screaming match.
2006-12-27 15:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to sit down with the wife and ask her what is more important you and your son or her family. She made a committment to you the day you got married and she is not living up to that. Good luck and try to move out ASAP with your wife and son.
2006-12-27 14:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by Love2 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you married a little girl. if a married women can't stand by her man, something is wrong. she is afraid of her family. does she (your wife) really thought that a rabbit running around, knowing that she has a kid that, that was cool and clean. you need to move away from her family.and i hate to say this, but if she choosing her family over you, she has no business being married. she don't know want a marriage is all about. if your not abuse her or cheating or drugs. she needs to be with you for you can raise your child together. you need to get her 3 books the proper care and feeding of husbands and ten stupid thing couples do to mess up their relationships and stupid things parents do to mess up their kids by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger she needs to read them. a.s.p
2006-12-27 14:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you need to have a long talk with your wife explain how you feel and that you are just worried about your son getting sick from the rabbits, and tell her how you feel about her family if she truly loves you she will listen and you will be able to work it out. I wish you the best of luck
2006-12-27 14:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
With rabbits running around loose s****ing and piss***, I wouldn't
have to wait for her to go with them , I would be out of that house so fast they'd think the rabbits ate me. That's silly and she doesn't love you enough without all that mess all over the house
you need to do some traveling.
2006-12-27 14:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by Nicki 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well, you and your wife should sit down and talk. i believe that your wife does love you, but she loves her family too, it must be a hard decision for her to choose one over the other. it might also be the way she was raised, to always stick with your family. you never know and the only way to find out is to talk with her. marriage is a two way street, both need to make an effort for it to work.
2006-12-27 14:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by ^-^ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should have intimate relations with your sister in law. That way you can tell your wife about any birthmarks or tendencies she has. That way you will either wind up in bed with both of them (or the jakuzzie) or be eating fried rabbit for dinner. Or both
2006-12-27 15:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋