i have a 4 year old son well hes turning 4 april 12 but i want to tell my friends hes mine but i dont know how ive been keeping it from everyone he lives at my cousins house i moved out of my house for a year when i was 12 and lived with my cousin got drunk had sex got pregant and then now i have a 4 year old who i love so much and well 2 of my friends found out and i want to tell everyone but my folks dont even know i mean im only 15 they just think that its my cousins kid...i dont know i wanna tell them but then im just scared. any advice? FYI im not with the guy anymore he doesnt know he has a son and he will never know!!! well at least i will never tell him he put something in my drink and yeah.
2006-12-27 06:25:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Be honest with everyone if it bothers you to hide him. Be proud of your son. He didn't make the mistakes, you did and now you have him....So do the right thing.
2006-12-27 06:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have access to some counseling? I think you should have some help in dealing with these things.
Yes, your parents should eventually know that this is your child. Where were they when you gave birth?
It seems that the trust between you and your parents is not very great, and it seems that this has been going on for a long time.
It will probably take some time and a lot of work to turn your life around, but you can do it!
You might begin with your school counselor and let him or her know that you have a big personal problem that you need counseling help with. Don't initially tell the school counselor everything, but tell them that you need a confidential counselor to talk to.
It's ok to use the internet to ask a question, but you need personal, up-close help on a long-term basis. You need a friend who will help you, and it should not be family or any of your friends, especially not a boyfriend. It should be someone who has no expectations of you, like a trained counselor.
2006-12-27 06:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by flywho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This just shows that ur very irresponsible and i think that ur 4 year old son deserves to know who his dad is even if the dad put something in ur drink . ur only 15 and how could u do this all alone? u have to let ur parents know about this, i mean arent they worried about u? but i must say u are pretty strong for a 15 year old raising a 4 year old son, but u need help u cant survive by living with ur cousin ur whole life, ur son has the right to see his grandparents and u should go back to ur mom and dad and tell them thats the best thing to do. and yes it can get pretty embarresing but things will pass and they are after all ur parents.
2006-12-27 06:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this entire situation repulses me.
I hope this is a bogus story and youre just in need of dire attention
however, if this is true I'm going to have to ask at 12 years old,
why were you "living with a cousin" that lets you drink alchohal?
and having sex? you were a minor (and still are) thats illeagle
and the comment about "putting something in your drink?" are you saying this "boyfriend" put something in your drink and ended up having sex? Thats a crime. This whole situation is a sad one,
Where are your parents? I dont know them personally, but if you had to move in with family at 12 years old and drinking is tolerated
I can't say that your parents ever were really parents to you. This
problem is bigger than hiding your child at 15 years old. You need to talk to a responsible adult; NOT YOUR COUSIN. Someone
like a teacher or the school counsler. You are headed for devient
behavoir and really tough and dissapointing life. I'm not particularly religious, but I'm going to pray for you.
2006-12-27 06:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jenster*is*flipping*you*off 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 01:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have your cousion take care of your son? Tell your family and move your son in with you and start being a mother and doing your job. You can get a job at taco bell. And yes you should tell the father.
2006-12-27 06:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by robedzombiesoul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your parents first I think they would want to know that they have a grandchild. Your child needs to know who his grandparents are. Let everyone know it probably won' t be as bad as you think. If I had a grandchild I would want to know. Let your child enjoy his grandparents and his family. Tell your parents what happened get it off of your chest I think that the longer you wait the harder it will be. So go for it.
2006-12-27 09:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by teddybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for what ever reason i applaud you for having your son and not getting an abortion you don't have to be ashamed love your son and tell the whole world how much you love him and when you get yourself together be with him and spend as much time with him as possible take tones of photos be happy who ever have something bad to say to you tell them to kiss the very crack that don't get alot of sunshine good luck put GOD first and everything will be ok as for the daddy you should let him know
2006-12-27 07:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell everyone he is your son. when he gets older and understands what's going on, he will be very hurt that u do not claim him as your own in public. your folks will probably be very offended that u did not tell them sooner. why did u leave ur parents house to begin with?
2006-12-27 06:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone. It is nothing to be ashamed of. This may sound horrible, but I live in a town where teenage pregnancy is osmething of the norm. Tell your friends. I think they'll be alot more accepting than you anticipate.
2006-12-27 08:28:13 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it will be, you have to tell your parents. They will probably be mad, but they will still love you. And if they don't, there bad parents. You should also tell the father. He deserves to know and your son deserves to have a father. You don't want your kid to go his whole life without a father, do you?
2006-12-27 06:39:49 · answer #11 · answered by animalove59729201 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋