i fell out with my best friend a while ago because she went behind my back with my bf and i was upset and found i was more different to her than i thought so i decided i didnt need her as a friend anymore,That turned out to be a really good decision as im much happier now but the thing is that my other best friend is also her friend and it used to be the three of us but now i have fallen out with the 1st friend i have also grown apart from the 2nd. We have spoken about it a lot and i have been trying 2 stay in contact with her but its really hard because we are at college now and we do different subjects so i hardly ever get to see her. We fell out a while ago but made up but then didnt get the chance to see each other and the next time i saw her she blanked me....i dont no wat 2 do...all my other friends say that she should respect my choice and allow me to do wat i want so i can be happy..but i still feel really guilty cos its not her fault....wat should i do?
2006-12-27 06:12:41 · 18 answers · asked by make_a_wish995 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People make their own decisions in life. You have done nothing wrong. You have made a considered and moral decision. If others cannot respect that...maybe they never were the friends you deserved in the first place?
2006-12-27 06:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to befriend u second friend again then u should make an effort. tell ur friend that u want it to be like before and that u cant live with the guilt that she isnt ur friend anymore because u valued the friendship between u guys so much. and i understand how awkward it can be since nothing will ever be the same. This happened to me and my 2 really good friends. Well it was always the three of us then one of my friends she just started to change and it was never the same, i mean my other friend was still friends with the gurl that changed but i felt we just all fell apart, but now me and my other friend are best friends because i told her that i wanted to become friends again and that i didnt want it the way it happened and now im very happy if i can do it u can too.!
2006-12-27 14:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this same exact problem.there was 3 of us always out partyin we grew up 2gether.but bout 7 years ago they fell out over somethin so silly its unbelievable n when i went clubbin with one the other would get vexed n visa versa.so i ended up losin them both cos i got fed up wiv it.all i can advise is move on cos u neva no wats gonna happen in the future.mine was a happy ending cos i saw one a few years later in a club n after 1 too many drinks we was in tears n made up,n the other i saw at a party a coupla months ago n we been chattin on the fone since.its all part of growin up,u lose alot of friends but also make a lot of new ones 2.
2006-12-27 17:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel guilty. She went behind your back which was bad. Meaning that she is not a good friend. If you are happy without her being a friend then things should stay how they are. If your 2nd friend cannot find a way to be your friend too and not just hers, then she is not a good friend either. Just keep your distance and meet some new friends. As long as you are happy. You just have to find it in your heart to forgive both of them, but you do not have to be their friend if that is what makes you depressed. Just continue to be happy. :)
2006-12-27 14:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by hearts101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me this is what happens! You go to college, you make new friends, you fall out with old friends!
You grow up a little and then grow apart! Its hard at first, but you will get there!
You think that you will be friends with people for ever and ever, but it just doesnt work like that!
Just leave it! You obviously have good friends, why waste your time with somebody thats going to be childish!
Go out there and be happy!
2006-12-28 09:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by GeorgieP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your second friend know that your other friend cheated with your boyfriend, How can she trust someone like that?
I think you do not have anything to feel guilty about. Get some new friends, ones that now the meaning of friendship and trust,
2006-12-29 21:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by "*♥*Nafisa*♥*" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend slept with my boyfriend of 2 years behind my back, i split up with my boyfriend immediately and fell out with my friend.
t was awkward in our group for ages but i managed and i just gave them space with her and i think the other girl did the same for me.
after a few months though i realised that theres more to life than boyfriends and friends are there forever.
i gave the girl a call and said i hope we could just put the past behind us and just forget, it took about 4 months to actually feel like friends again though.
she slept with my ex in the begining of january and we became friends again in august, now its like nothing happened and its all been forgotten.
As for my ex he has split up any relationship i have tried to have since, but i have just found out he married a girl 2 days b4 xmas n was only with her 2 months or so!!
the moral of my storey is men r losers and mates last a lifetime xx
2006-12-27 16:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by ILBW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends come and go sweety you can make more. Think of yourself first before you think of others because in the end your the only person you can depend on. I've had so many bestfriends and have had to cut them out and I've met so many new bestfriends too. The world is full of people.
2006-12-27 14:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by TheLight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts to lose a friend but it sounds like you have other friends. Losing amd making new friends is all part of growing up. Try not to dwell on what might have been and get on with enjoying what you have now.
2006-12-30 10:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's bothering you, try contacting her - phone, text, email - and apologise. If you know you have done all you can to make the friendship work, then you don't have anything t feel guilty about - move on but try and learn from what went wrong this time.
hope you have a good new year..
2006-12-27 14:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by Star 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋