my mom won't let me get a myspace. she says she thinks some guy is gonna come an molest me. does anybody know anybody it's happened to? how often does it happen? is this resonable... should i just beleive that anytime i get on the computer someone is stalking me or something?
2006-12-27 06:10:54 · 51 answers · asked by Rebekah 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ya, i'm almost 16 - but i thought if i never gave out info i couldn't get hurt...
2006-12-27 06:21:17 · update #1
I think it really depends on how old you are. I am a mom, however I am also 28 yrs. old. My daughters are 11 & 12 and I don't think that they are mature enough to understand how someone can pose as a kid that is your age when they could be my age or older. I was taught never to give out personal information on the computer at all. No ages, birthdates, schools, etc. Basics, very very basic. Even now as I write this, you really have no idea that what I am writing about it true. Am I really a mom with daughters? Am I really 28 yrs. old? Something for you to think about!!
2006-12-27 06:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn S 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes it has happened, alot. I don't remember all the details, but I have seen it on the news. One girl actually ran away from home and took a flight to Jordan to meet her "true love" fromt the computer. This was a smart straight A, never in trouble, girl. So, don't take it personally. I won't let my daughter get one either. There are just too many scary creeps out there and no matter how smart you are, they always find a way to trick you. If you want to know the reason I won't let my daughter on the internet without me knowing exactly what she is doing, rent the movie "Strangland" by Dee Snider. You will completely understand.
Also, there was one girl who only gave the state she lived in and her first name. Harmless, right? Nope. A convicted child molestor was "friends" with her on my space. they got into a conversation about her hard day at field hockey practice at her high school. somehow she mentioned the color of her jersey (he now could find out what school she went to by the school color) and then she mentioned her player number. Guess what? He showed up at her next game and found her, with just that little bit of innocent information.
2006-12-27 06:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by evilcharm1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as being over causious. Yes there have been a lot of problems with kids on the internet. In most cases the parents weren't involved in screening their kids usage. They've just let the kid go wherever they want to online with no training. They expect the computer to babysit for them. Leaving your kid untrained on a computer for hours at a time is an invitation to predators 7 there are lots of them.
My daughter has her own myspace page. I helped her set it up and have tought her how to use the internet responsably. Its only available to her friends and I screen it regularly. It may be that your mother dosen't feel your responsable enough or dosen't have the time to check your activities. Its also possible that she's overacting to some of the media hype thats been going on lately. There have been several shows on the subject.
There are predators out there.
They prey on the weak , impresionable , uninformed and unobservant
The internet gives them the ability to look for victims without really revealing their intents or identities
If you don't watch for them and act accordingly your likely to be one of their victims.
Respect your mothers wishes for now, Their in your best interest.
2006-12-27 06:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by thomas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only trying to protect you. No parent wants to let their child be in ANY kind of danger. Compromise with her tell her that you and her can set it up together...so she can see what you put on there and she can be put at ease seeing that you don't put a picture or any real info about yourself such as address or phone number or anything that can lead a predator to you. also let her check your myspace every once in a while to keep her at ease. Yes those stories you hear are real. there are some sick freaks on the computer nowadays and have used myspace as a way to track young girls and boys. Good luck and don't be mad at your mom for loving you that much :)
2006-12-27 06:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am glad you have a mother that cares about you. my mom is the same way. she doesn't let me get on there. it rarely happens to people who put a lot of information on there. do not put something like, "i live in Nebraska, USA" (this is not my information). never put ANY personal information at all because just with that information, they can come and hunt you down. i am trying to warn you about that so you can be safe. and i just heard a couple of months ago, a girl got hunted down and killed from a stranger just because she put a whole lot of information on Myspace. and also i heard there was a murderer on Myspace that looks on peoples profiles and looks for information. i swear this is true! that's why i stay away from that website and you should too.
p.s. there is some people that might be an old grown adult trying to gather information but they are trying to look like they are a kid so they can trick you. i have seen that and heard that many times.
2006-12-27 06:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Something that your mom needs to know is that while myspace has gotten a bad rap in the news, its also a place for people to express themselves through on line diaries, music and art. A big hurdle is to gain the level of trust and respect necessary for her to give you that freedom. I don't know your online behaviour, but if its not anything edgy, go for a while without erasing cookies and history so that your mom can see your online habits if she wants. Being online is really no different than her letting you go out with your friends unsupervised, or borrowing the car. Its about her having the confidence in you to make the right decisions.
2006-12-27 06:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by oscr_thegrouch 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a parent, who was a teen not too long ago, i can remember thinking how unfair my parents were being about certain stuff. Now that i have a son and another on the way, i can absolutely understand what they were doing. It may be hard to accept right now, but your parents love you so much to care about your safety and are only doing what is best for you in their eyes. This is a unsafe world now a days and you don't even know how dangerous it gets till you are in trouble or are old enough to see how much trouble is out there. They can only guard you for 18 years and then you are on your own in this massive world. It's their responsibility to teach you to be safe, for yourself and for any future young ones you might bring into this world (far from now i hope). It's hard not running your own life yet, but trust me, it's not really as fun as you think it might be. Most of us adults, I'm sure, would love to return to the age of less responsibilities and concerns.
2006-12-27 06:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No im 14 and my mom wont let me get a myspace she thinks why do you need to put your picture out online because this happened to my friend and so thats also a reason i cant have a myspace but im very happy with my AIM
-Fredo
2006-12-27 09:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by Alaina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 17 and i have been using the internet for the past 5 years without much supervision. honestly my parents seem to trust me enough about it but i have gotten into a tight situation (when i was 13) and the guy got put in jail, ive learned and grown since then and i know i did the wrong thing then, but my parents trust that im grown now and can take care of myself. and no i dont think u should believe that anytime u get on a computer that someone is stalking you, lots of stalkers have nothing to do with the internet. i hear about more problems with stalkers that are in ur own neighborhood that have nothing to do with the internet.
2006-12-27 06:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the only way someone can find you is if you give them information about yourself. they cant just look you up and come get you. parents are afraid of myspace because they no nothing about it aside from what they hear on the news, about someone who agreed to meet somebody and went missing and things like that. people who do things like that are stupid...as long as you know that you cant give out to omuch personal information, then you should be allowed to have a myspace. talk with your parents and explain to them how myspace works....you could show them by making one with them for them...give it a try:)
2006-12-27 07:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff L. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋