ok long story and try 2 understand dont judge i know i am the only one who can change this but it is harder than just said.i am 36 my b/f of 4 years is so inmature lazy and not so bright,he drives me nuts all the time every sec i am with him i cant stand him,see i just got a lump some of money and put it in to buying a home and our car witch r in my name but i need him to help me pay the bills because i am on a fixed income for the rest of my life,i want to go find a new MAN he is only 25 but he dont cheat on me he is just a jerk and not to bright i realy cant stand him and i tell him but he tells me oh u love me u know it.no i dont i just dont know what to do. i dont want to loose my home i just bought ok try this i just had a surgery got out of the hosp.onsun with 80 meds and on tuesday igot up and only had like 28 left i got 3 people here that would do that and i think they r all in on it it seems to happen all the time to me their is somuch to this story i can possibialty tell all
2006-12-27 06:04:46 · 11 answers · asked by lundie_g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he calls me names he cuts on my kids and my sister an my all we have no kind of sex life i get no love from him i dont even want to be in the same bed with him no effection what so ever he makes me cry all the time it seems like i try to explain life and things to him and he just dont get it. i am so tired what do i do..??
2006-12-27 06:10:18 · update #1
Bless your heart, you have more than one person should have to deal with. I wish I could say something that would make it all okay but I can't. Without him you might be able to actually find a life worth living, a happy one. But until you find it in yourself to be strong enough to say no for a final time to both him and so called friends you won't be able to start on the road that leads to that "other life." It sounds like you need a complete overhaul of acquaintances. Even if it means reporting a "theft" of medications, etc. to the police. Are you active in a church? If so, go to them and seek guidance/help. If not, find one. There may be help and a future special someone that is just waiting for you. God bless you and good luck.
Stop referring to him as your "boyfriend," he is no such thing.
2006-12-27 06:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by violet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the phoney friends who are using you.Find a better roommate first if need be.Roommates are hard to find but keep trying.Put your meds in a locked box or a locked bedroom.You may also try to get help from the sourse that is giving you your fixed income.Maybe you can kick out the loser & they can help you find a way to get assistance you need while trying to find a new roommate.Good luck.You can e-mail me if you would like a friend.I am an adult female & know all too well about users.
2006-12-27 14:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm try to figure out what the REAL question is?? You said hes not cheatin, you said you dnt want him, you said hes immature, abusive emotionally & verbally. Bottom-line: You want him there just to use him..but you dnt like him.. If thats the case and he want to be there why not suggest 2 him that the 2 of you be roommates..That way he will have to share in payin the bills etc.. and you dnt have to be in the same bed with him or anything else. He do his thing.You do yours.
And the bills are ALL you 2 will be responsible for together. You'd be gettin what you want right?
2006-12-27 16:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by DeDe x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, sounds like ur plate's full. 4 starters, there IS a way out of this & i know it doesn't seem that way, but there is. get rid of him! i mean, c'mon, he's 25...and ur 36. u've already started ur life & have grown up & he hasn't. he's still in his immature years. n/e ways, i saw what u said about him with the kids & if i had kids & the guy i was with was treating them badly, he'd be out of my house so soon his head would spin.
ur their mother, so u should take full control in a situation like this. it sounds 2 me like u just about can't stand this guy & that's probably what's making this a really horrible relationship. never stay with someone u absolutely can't stand. it's not fair 4 u or 4 the guy ur with.
i hope everything works out...
good luck*God bless*
⥠abby â¥
2006-12-27 15:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. I need to gets me a lump sum o'moneys.
It's a process with lots of choices that you're going to have to make. Some of the things you have to do, you won't like, but the end result will be better.
2006-12-27 14:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got way too many issues in one question.; ditch the boy friend; get rid of the other 2; get daily productive outside the home, at anything including if necessary, basket weaving! Turn off the t.v.!
2006-12-27 14:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Tony S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
only you know why you are still with him maybe you feel sorry for the guy but you need to kick his *** to the curve and find your self a real man that will be abel to take care of you and your needs, but don't be fool'd give your self time don't rush into fast either well GOOD LUCK
2006-12-27 18:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey....Im sorry but u need to put his azz out. Girl put all feelings to the side and put his **** on the curb. Ha I mean he's not doing anything for you. And he's just a kid and your a grown woman...u can take care of your self. It may take awhile to get back on your feet but you can do it. Get him out ASAP!
2006-12-27 14:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by PrivateWoman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him..sell the house buy something you can afford... life is full of choices.. make some good ones for a change...
2006-12-27 14:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by Marshall Lee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's just not that into you ! read the book , move on
2006-12-27 14:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by sml 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋