I can't see not knowing a person inside and out before you decide to spend your entire life with them. I think 2-3 years at least!
what do you think?
2006-12-27 05:52:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As soon as you start living together as a couple you start behaving like one and committing yourselves to things and many cases even begin to have kids together.
Its a pretty half-assed way to do things when all the while you haven't made any commitment to each other.
Sadly, a lot of men like to use these arrangements to "love 'em and leave em". It works great for them for the first while, no wedding, no commitment, but all the conveniences of marriage. Then one day they realize that the commitments are piling up and its pretty much like they're married anyway -- but since they were "only" living together, they'd like to free themselves of the accumulating commitments and responsibilities and walk away it all -- after all, it was all only a test drive, right hon'?
2006-12-27 06:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Zee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its a good idea I lived w/ my boyfriend now husband for 2 years before we got married. It gives you an inside look on how things would be if you were to get married.
2006-12-27 09:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely living together first. Have to test drive the car before buying it.
But it's different for different people. I didn't live with my first husband--I wouldn't have married him if I had.
I lived with #2--left him 3days after the wedding.
Didn't live with #3--and that didn't last long, either, after marrying.
Lived with #4, and that lasted 12yrs.
living with my fiance about 7mos, marrying next summer. We both have children but will never have kids together. There's no way we make it work without seeing how our family is going to blend without trying it, first. There are just too many ex/other influences in our children's lives for it all to be peachy. I have two of my four children half the time, he has his three every-other-weekend. The children have been raised completely different so it's not easy to find common ground for all of them, and we certainly were not going to throw all of us into a married family without trying it out!!!!
2006-12-27 06:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by moniquebell 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting to know a person is the glue that keeps marriages together. By the time you actually get to know the person and understand their ways, you look up and you've been married 10 years.
It's hard to really get to know someone when they can just get up and leave whenever they want. There's no real commitment. (except maybe a lease).
2006-12-27 06:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 05:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a good idea. I lived with my wife for two and half years before we got married. We learned how to communicate and compromise with eachother before we got married, which has made things even more wonderful.
The downfall is that if you live together before you get married, when you come home from the ceremony it doesn't seem like anything is different.
2006-12-27 06:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think living together is a good idea you get to know your partner better before marriage
2006-12-27 06:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by valley1800 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's a statistic out there that says that couples who live together pre-matrimony have a higher rate of divorce. I wouldn't risk it if I were you.
2006-12-27 10:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree definitely,you need to see if you can live together,its one thing being compatible dating,but its another thing entirely being compatible living together
2006-12-27 05:56:02 · answer #9 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it any other way. For me to marry someone i want to know as much as i possibly can before i make that move
2006-12-27 06:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by smurf_punky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋