how many real friends do u have?

Question

i just wanna know cause from my point of view there's nothing called friendship nowadays, it's only a matter of common interests not pure love and care... i really hope it's only me who feels this way

Answer 1

Your not the only one that feels this way, My mom once told me that in one hand i hold more fingers then i would true friends. She said to me that true friends are like a mirage in a desert., you think you see one and then you find it was just a mere mirage.
She also said that a true friend will not hold herself back from telling you the truth and that I would know when i had a true friend when she sounded more like my mother then just a mere friend
So far so true..... To date i have only three very very special friends, Don't get me wrong i have lots of friends of interest and friends of convenience. If we spoke the truth then the truth would be just what i am telling you.

Answer 2

2

Answer 3

3

Answer 4

3

Answer 5

There's nothing wrong with a relationship built on common interests.
If you are short on relationships of pure love and care, maybe it's you. Are you offering pure love and care to others? I really think that most people respond to it in kind. What I mean is that if you are genuinly interested in someone and care about what they think and how they feel, they will find you fascinating.
I don't know how many I have. I've been badly burned recently and it's made me question all my relationships. Especially the ones I consider close.
Good question.

Answer 6

Growing up I had one close friend - my confidant. There were other "girlfriends" that I would hang around with, but I learned very young that they could not always be trusted with my innermost feelings and secrets, so I learned how to have conversations with people without really saying anything (imparting information about anything). This has served me well in life because with the work I ended up going into and that of my husbands I have had to employ that tactic almost daily. And while my closest and dearest friend passed away a number of years ago, I still have found it best to keep only one very close friend. That way you always know where the leak is if anything gets out you didn't want to.

Answer 7

The way things are in life somtimes you really do feel that way when you've been betrayed or left alone by people you trusted for support & unconditional love. I have 2 real friends, God & my mother. I can always depend on these two to be here when I need them, no matter the situation I'm in. Whether I've been good or bad, wrong or right. Its guaranteed that I have their unconditional love, & friendship.

Answer 8

I have a lot of friends that we get together all the time with, but REal True friends to the end.....5. I think thats actually a lot too. I guess I am a lucky person. I think that just like relationships, friendships take some work and a lot of honesty.

Answer 9

Honey, you have your leaves, your branches, and your roots (3). Leaves are associates, you know folks you hear from from time 2 time, your branches (people who are close when you are close distsnce wise but far when you are far) people who are there sometimes, give great advice sometimes,all round sometimey people,and roots (your good friends people who can give advice, listen when you need an ear, tell you the truth because most people cannot, you know that all around ever-present people in your life when good or bad (this is your family and afew close friends) I believe that in general people do not mean any harm but some people mean you the very best and life will sow you who those people are and they are few so enjoy them all but remember who is true.


P.S. The more folk the more drama!

Answer 10

I disagree. There are real, true friends. The number is not what counts, rather the intensity of the friendship that allows honesty and familial love.

I have two friends with whom I have been friends for over forty years and know from experience they would move heaven and earth if I needed their help (it happened). I have maybe four other very close and real friends of shorter lengths whom I know are always there.

And, yes there are those "freinds" who say that are but I have to be the one who reaches out for social contact. Those friends are close social contacts, not real friends.

Perhaps what you need to label as friends are those with whom you have had a long term relationship, whether they live near or far, those with whom you call for a friendly chat or to cry over a life even. Remember quality not quantity of friends.