We have lived together for 5 years previously, and have a five year old together.. We can't seem to get along for anything??? We are both stubborn as heck... Any suggestions????
2006-12-27 05:42:18 · 9 answers · asked by Ronnie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stubborn is a good trait when it comes to not leaving or not giving up.
I'm going through pretty much the same thing. We've both admitted that we would do anything to stay together... after that you have to decide whether talking about problems is better or worse when it comes to solving them. Two strong personalities have that problem.
Stalemates will be common. Patience is most important.
That's my tactic, anyway.
2006-12-27 05:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by DeanPonders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleep in separate rooms for a while. Nope I dont mean live on the sofa, I mean in another bedroom. Get a hobby, besides the internet ( no more www. at least the frequency), what you are experiencing is... "man, if I knew it was gonna be the same sh**, I wouldn'tve gotten married." Its only the same because you both are continuing to do the same things, however seeking different results. Websters' descibes this as insanity.You have to get to know this person all over again, your circumstances are totally different now, so everything that you learned in the play marriage does not apply now. Think of the preseason of football, some teams seem promising in preseason, however when the real season arrives, no one remembers the preseason!
2006-12-27 13:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's very common what you are going through. life is stressful especially when there are small children around. A woman needs sometimes to let the man feels like THE MAN while controlling situation behind the scene. Make sure you try couples' counselling and work out your relationship so that some compromises and boundaries are achieved. Have a babysitter come in and have date nights together when u can. You are going through a natural adjustment period, and if you depend on him financially, never bite the hand that feeds you.
good luck
2006-12-27 13:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you got along before the marriage (because if not, then why on earth would you have gotten married).
If you’ve been living together for five years, then why has it suddenly changed now just because you got a piece of paper (basically, the only difference)? Something’s going on, and if it’s causing major problems, then you need to figure how what it is. You have to identify the problem before you can deal with it.
2006-12-27 14:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lived together 5 years, then this may not be the typical 1st year of marriage. I thought my first year of marriage was the best. You both have to work hard at it and compromise.
2006-12-27 13:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Celebrating our 25th year of marriage on 12 6. I would say you two were not meant to be together in the first place. Marriage is one big long compromise if it is to be successful.
2006-12-27 14:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by a_troll_a_day 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This situation will not get any better. Do not try counseling, it is a waste of time and money. I lived with my fiance for a year and a half...it was hell. Our first year and a half of marriage...hell. Now we're getting divorced....JOY!!!
2006-12-27 13:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ain't seen nothing yet, wait till the last year !!!
2006-12-27 14:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by want2wild 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry, it gets harder.
2006-12-27 13:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋