First, I am not GAY. I have had this married friend for 5 Years, and now after Christmas, and some fighting, and lots of talking, my wife has been convinced that me experimenting with my best frined is our best interest. She has obviously been talking to my friends wife at length. My best friend admitted to me that he has been in love with me since the day we met. And now he wants to do me up. I have never done anything like that before, and I am numb over the whole topic allready. He swears he loves me, and that together we can all get along, and that our wives will be better friends too. I think I am being led into some wierdo stuff, and now I am even looking at my wife different. Whats next, our wives doing it, or worse my frined and MY WIFE!!! NO F'n way. WHAT DO I DO TO RESOLVE THIS. By the way, I do Love my friend too, but like I love family, I have never thought of touching him or kissing, or anything, now he wants to kiss me, and who knows what else. And my wife said GO AHEAD!
2006-12-27 05:30:21 · 35 answers · asked by Long Beach Moose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not down with this, but the main point is, that he says he has never been with a man either, and that we wants to be closer to me and have this "Bond" that we dont have. I thought everything was great, what a messed up Chritmas Present. I always knew he "Loved" me , but I never thought he was "IN LOVE" with me. My wife is a good lady, and she thinks that I should do it just to do it, and get this issue out of the way, or as she said Christmas day, let's just move on....
2006-12-27 05:43:26 · update #1
NEXT ON SPRINGER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-27 05:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, That would be taking the Metrosexual thing over the line.
UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE DO YOU TRY THIS IF YOU ARE NOT 100% INTO IT.
Tell them all that you are flattered but are just not that adventurous. Tell your wife there is nothing there for you to learn which will make your relationship better and if she wishes to try him on you are gone. Tell your freind ( ? ) that you are so repulsed at the thought of doing anything with a guy that you would not even share a woman with a guy. Tell him to get back in the closet. Then suggest that they drop this subject with you.
Dude, if you are sick now think how you will feel when you cross THAT line. There is little going back.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not anti gay at all its just that I do not believe in doing anything you do not want to. That includes gay, multiple partners bondage, pain, whatever. Do what you want BUT do nothing you don't want.
2006-12-27 06:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say go ahead and pull the four-way with the other couple. You can avoid his attentions, enjoy his wife, and see what develops. Let them know that if something happens that's too weird for you, you will pull out of the tangle, sit in the chair beside the bed and watch the rest of it. I think that if you deal yourself out of it, the other three are going to get together and have their own fun, and don't you want to be there to keep tabs on what happens? After it's over, ask your wife what her motivations were in sharing you, especially with a guy. My guess is she wants to do your friend (or the wife, or both) and this business with you and him is just her means to that end. Good luck....
2006-12-27 05:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do what you want. You stated that you were not gay so why would you consider doing anything with another man? I would have to say that you should remain faithful to your wife. Her giving the ok just might be her trying to figure out if she is married to a gay man. Mixing up married couples never ends well. Doesn't his wife have a bit of a problem with him being gay? I know I would file for a divorce if I ever found out my hubby was a switch hitter. To each their own, I just wouldn't want to join.
2006-12-27 05:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is about the weirdest thing I have heard of yet. But I would suggest to you that this did not come out of the blue my guess is that your wife is already doing someone. If this makes you un-comfortable then by all means NO!. However I am not sure if the friendship can survive now that you know how your friend really feels. I personally would not want to continue with it.
2006-12-27 05:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this part of you statement "Whats next, our wives doing it, or worse my frined and MY WIFE!!! " has probably already happened.
Sorry, but that request is too weird for me and I wouldn't do it. In fact I would seriously think about getting out of the relationship. Chances are it's already happened between them and if that's not what you want -a guy on guy or a 4-some- get out now and protect yourself now.
2006-12-27 05:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by spitfin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG.. I have never heard of a situation like that!!! That's so sad and sick at the same time. First of all.. the fact that your wife is encouraging this is disturbing to say the least. Secondly.. your married to her , not other people. I think she just wants the excuse to "'play" with others herself. Don't do anything your not comfortable with.. always follow your best instincts. I wish you luck friend.
2006-12-27 06:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do to resolve it is say, "No." Tell your wife you have considered the suggestion all you need to consider it, and that you have reached the conclusion that you are not going to do it, ever. Tell your friend the same. Tell them that bringing it up again will not only not change your mind, it will eventually make you resentful and bring the friendship you do have to an end.
2006-12-27 05:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swinging is one thing. Which is swapping. But your freind saying he loves you ummm that is not good. You have to tell her how you feel. I wouldnt do it. I mean my husband and I have been thinking about swinging for a while now. However they are your freinds which is one thing I wouldnt do and feelings are involved, this is going to turn into a mess I would think. And if you are asking these questions your really not feeling this whole situation. Tell your wife how you feel, and your freind there is nothing wrong with how you feel and she should except this.
2006-12-27 05:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by sdexcalibur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's all up to you. If you don't want to do it, put your foot down and refuse everyone. Let them know you're annoyed by their pressure and ask them to support your feelings if they really care about you. If you're not gay and don't want to experiment, tell this to your wife and friend and keep being a broken record until they understand that NO means NO! Tell them you are not open to any more pressure (unless you are) and you don't want to hear anything more about it until YOU bring it up.
2006-12-27 05:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being such a prude and loosen up. no matter what you decide, it's not gonna hurt you...it's just sex...and if your wife gets into it your probably going to get better reactions during sex from her. Also you will probably do his wife as well. It's not love man, you and your wife love each other...it's just sex. Just another activity with your friends.
2006-12-27 06:21:27 · answer #11 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋