He graduated from Saint Louis University School of Law, and it's near impossible to get a law job here if you've gone anywhere else. However, he's 42, has worked 7 years, and only makes about $40 grand a year. To me, this seems low for a SLU grad. I don't expect wealth, but why take out $100 grand in student loans if you're just going to make the same as a paralegal? Those loans arent paid off yet, either, and he's single with no dependents, and pays just $500 rent. He works in his brother's law firm, and the brother also pays for his daily lunch, as well as his parking. I'm concerned about our financial future if he has absolutely no ambition or gumption beyond what he needs to get by for himself. To me, a man who wants a wife & family works towards that NOW by making sure they will be provided for when the time comes. He seems to have given it no thought besides simply wanting it. What do you think?
2006-12-27 05:26:13 · 13 answers · asked by Christopher E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How much you make as an attorney depends on how lucrative your practice is (divorce attorney? public defender? corporate attorney? lobbyist?), and where you are in the organizational structure (what firm you're part of and how high their profile is). I have a relative who is an honors Pepperdine graduate in a hard-to-crack area, and he's looking at some lean years indeed until he works his way up the chain. Your fiance ought to be seeing some limited progress after seven years, or at the very least he ought to be able to see some opportunities for advancement coming up soon. I think you've got the right attitude about bachelor coasting vs. providing for the family you want, and you ought to talk with him about it and see where his head is on this issue. That will give you a strong indication whether your fiance is going to go on to become your husband. Good luck.
2006-12-27 05:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay for you to be brow-banging your husband so unabashedly, what exactly are you bringing to the table? Other than an appetite? It may be more worthwhile to your husband to start a family law firm than to chase bucks! Have you thought about that. Instead of beating your husband about money, why havent you done your part and getting a career? You money hungry spoiled slob? Stop prostituting yourself and your unborn children in the name of love! LOVE IS FREE! Its been that way since the '60s. It takes two to provide a home, go to work and do your part instead of criticising your husband. DID you know that airline pilots only make about 60k? Yes, it takes more $$ to be a pilot, but there you go. These are careers which usually mean a job for a lifetime, and like all jobs there are entry-level income brackets. After your husband gets more experience and return to school for his MS, or PhD. Then he will make a little more. But til then you need to get off his butt and get by his side where you belong!
2006-12-27 05:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right on in your thinking. Most young people truly do not understand the need to develop a life plan early and then work that plan.
Money....in and of itself....is not a reason to marry anyone. First and foremost the kind of person that you are marrying must be someone you can respect. If you feel that he is not where he should be in life at this age then by marrying him you are settling for what he is. And that will be devastating for both of you. If he has no clue you feel this way however it will be very hard on him to lose you. From his perspective he may be doing okay and with you about to marry him he may be on top of the world.
It is not a given that a Lawyer will always be well off. It depends upon what is most important to them. If becoming financially secure is more important than helping people who cannot afford a high priced lawyer then they will take the steps to get there.
Your fiancé being out of school for 7 years and working for his brother indicates he may be just what you say.....only willing to do what is easy. But ask yourself this. What is he doing there? Is his concern more for people and less for what he can charge them?
If so he is a very good man. But it means he will never have a lot of money without being a skilled investor.
I am not....nor do I know.....a lawyer, but if a man knows that he wants a family and he wants to provide for them well he will have at least tried to do better by age 42. Especially if he was willing to spend that much on education. However that is a generality as I know not his situation.
Before you do marry him you need to do one of two things.
Love him....and be willing to live with him.....the way he is
OR
Become dis-engaged and find someone more to your liking.
You will hurt him far less now than after you are married. For him to find out later that you are disappointed in what he is would devastate him.
2006-12-27 06:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you are putting too much emphasis on how much money your fiancee makes. Do you love this person? Why did you agree to marry him? What quality(ies) does he possess that makes you attracted to him? It takes many years to pay off student loans, and those types of debts are "good debt" and can be carried for 30 years or more without any detriment to the student's credit as long a monthly payments are made as agreed. Do you work outside the home? or do you expect your fiancee to foot the bill for all of your expenses as well as his? $40K/year, plus parking, sounds like a decent job. My husband and I make only a little more than that combined, have a nice house, a beautiful daughter, and a loving family - what else do we need?
2006-12-27 05:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by SmartAleck 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
legal professionals are dodgey. especially the only that your fiance has. you do no longer could be a genius or have a regulation degree to be attentive to that mendacity in court docket is unlawful and risky. you're able to be an remarkable liar to tug one over on the court docket gadget, and make sure you have lined each and every inch of the direction or you're able to honestly finally end up in lock up. as an occasion, it somewhat is how uncomplicated your fiance would be picked up in this. He is going to the physician complaining of problems together with his knee. He places those info in his assertion to flow till now a Justice of the Peace. The Justice of the Peace asks "in case your knee is so undesirable, how is which you have controlled to artwork as a landscaper because 2009"? = Case disregarded. ethical of the tale, you have a dumb criminal professional.
2016-10-28 11:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is lazy. Having a law degree does not guarantee financial success. Look in the phone book. There are probably 10,000 lawyers. Good luck and have fun this holiday season. Money isnt everything.
2006-12-27 05:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be grateful that he has a job and makes $40k a year. Maybe YOU don't know what he really makes, maybe he's not giving you the right figures.
If you want a high flier, and someone whose ambitious, find them cos your fiance is not going to change.
BTW, why are you guys engaged???
2006-12-27 05:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do I think, well, you asked for it, What are you doing to make it easier financially !!!!!!!
Why is it always up to the guy with some women???
2006-12-27 06:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by want2wild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont have a Job get one..what bout that
2006-12-27 05:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are correct in all that you say...think twice.....good luck
2006-12-27 05:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋