Why maximum love marriages are not successful?

Answer 1

who said so.. have u made a survey across the country.. the succcess rate in arranged as well as love marriages is the same.. it all depends on the couple.. if they balance each other, if they r able to look at each others good points n bear and accept the negative ones.. then u get a successful marriage..
usually, in a love marriage, since the couple already knw what they like abt each other n get along well beforehand n want to be with each other for the rest of their lives.. the happiness rate is more...but sometimes a couple may have more expectations from each other, they may expect the same kind of romance as thr was during their courtship n this may lead to them being unsatisfied.
Also, some love marriages take place against their family's approval, may be becuz of caste, religion problems or becoz parents know that the other partner is not right for that person.Such marriages done on impulse r mostly never successful.. may be bcoz somehwr the guilt always remains and it comes up now n again even if there's a small misunderstanding.. or may be becoz the couple was really unsuited for each other..

Answer 2

What we call love marriages are actually not love marriages but majority of them have roots in attraction (love) at first sight and people involved try proving themselves right. Love at first sight is only an physical attraction and not true love. True love only develops when you know the person inside out or for long time.
In the initial stages fantasies take them high but when realities of daily survival and understanding hits the ground the people involved get frustrated. Normally love marriages are done in isolation of family member, i.e. with out the perfect consent and involvement of family members, thereby when the ship hits the rocks there is no one of the family standing by the couple to help them get back on the track.
Not only love marriage but any marriage can be successful when there is enough understanding between the partners, they are matured and have made a matured decision and most important is that they are truly madly in TRUE LOVE not just fantasy or lust.

Answer 3

Because in love marriages, usually both partners come into the marriage with "smoke in their eyes", expecting perfection from the beloved (because they are so in love, especially if they married young). If the couple will not nurture the relationship after the smoke has been cleared, then this usually leads to divorce. Love marriages are wonderful, but maintaining and nurturing the love is what should be worked on more.

Answer 4

I am answering this question with respect to the societies and cultures where love marriages are not a rule. Hence my opinion might not apply to all love marriages.
IN a socieity where love marriage is not the general norm, as in India, most marraiges are partly or wholly arranged. The western socieites say that in such societies people marry first and fall in love later. Well i will not debate this statement of the westernerns about indian marriages.
Looked at from a societal point of view, love marriages in such societies are still a sort of rebellion agaisnt the tradition. Two people like each other or fall in love with each other and they decide to marry many a time against the wishes of their parents and other people who might matter to some extent at least in their lives. the parents and relatives ontheir part create a distance between themselves and such couples who tie the knot against their wishes.
Also it is a fact that in many a case love starts from lust and in quite a few cases the couple get married while still having just lust feelings about each other and thinking they r in love. In this stage they put their best foot forward and cover their shortcomings with falshood and sometimes plain lies. Once they start living together, their shortcomings or weaknesses become visible to each partner and they are sort of disillusioned. The lust is generally over by this time and the non-existant love is already missing. so the partners start feeling suffocated or deceived by each other and they tend to get away from each other.
At this time the parents or other relatives or the society can play an important role in reconciling the couple but since they have already distanced themselves from the couple, this interference or societal pressure is totally missing. Thus the relations between the couple get more and more strained and they head towards a divorce.
The fact that such a marriage was based on their own decision without parental or societal approval, also makes such couples sort of free from societal or parental pressure and they tend to look at their relations from their personal point of view and faults in partners appear larger than real. The self dependence and selfish evaluation of the situation by the two partners at this stage aggravates their relations paving the way for divorce.

Note: Though the above factors are responsible for more divorces among the copules who have married in love, i personally dont feel that arranged marriages are the solution. Nor do i tend to oppose love marraiges personally. A love marriage if nurtured properly by the two partners, with a bit of councelling from elders can in fact be a very happy union between two partners.

Answer 5

love marriages are mostly based on only attraction. after some years that attraction is ended and the marriage is not become a successful marriage.

Answer 6

I THINK IT IS BECAUSE THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT IS NEVER SATISFIED WITH ANYTHING I THINK THEY ALWAYS WANT MORE I THINK THEY GET MARRIED AND FIND 1 THING WRONG AND START LOOKING FOR MORE THINGS THEY THINK IS WRONG AND BEFORE THEY KNOW IT THEY ARE NOT HAPPY ANYMORE AND THEY ARE STARING AT OTHER WOMEN WITH PERVERSE THOUGHTS AND INTENTIONS BUT THEN THEY REALIZE WHEN THEY MARRY AGAIN THAT THE NEW PERSONS FEET STINK TOO, THEY DON'T LIKE DISHES EITHER, THEY HAVE SHORT TEMPER AS WELL I THINK YOU KNOW WHERE I AM GOING WITH THIS ETC.........WELL ANYWAY I THINK PEOPLE SHOULD BE HAPPY WITH WHAT AND WHO THEY HAVE SOME PEOPLE HAVE NOTHING DID YOU KNOW THAT IN THE OLD DAYS THE WOMAN DID NOT CHOOSE WHO SHE WANTED TO MARRY THE MAN OR WOMAN DID NOT EVEN LOVE EACH OTHER BUT THEY FELL IN LOVE OVER THE YEARS AND THOSE ARE SOME OF THE MOST LONGEST MARRIAGES IS THOSE THAT FALL IN LOVE AFTER MARRIAGE AND DON'T GIVE UP AFTER 1-3 YEARS WELL GOOD LUCK AND HAPPY NEW YEARS

Answer 7

Because maximum love marriages are done at Immatured age..They are just infatuated at this age..and they get married to live together..when they fed up of each other, they just feel they are not satisfied with their marriage,,They can't get things from their partners whatever they want..finally marriages get failed.. but if marriages done at matured age I guess they do get success..because you do know what is right and wrong at this age..

Answer 8

Easy to answer.

Because most do not do what love requires. Many are selfish, more interested in what they think, want, need, like, agree with then they are in being concerned about those things in the other person.

Next, people do not understand, value or care about what God said or care about doing what their marriage vows say, paste the point of them getting what they themselves want.

Now wasnt that easy?

Answer 9

It is not like that always. I m in favour of love marriages bcoz i saw arranged marriages work worser then love marriages. well in love marriages it is a decision of couples bt not our parents. when we depend upon our parents even in our marriages then after 3 - 5 yrs , we both start draging our relationships bcoz it is our parents wish to b togethjer which we accept it .well in love marriages , it all depend upon on us we hve choose our btter half , we know each other soo it is up to us how to mend our relationship or make it fresh everyday. so keep faith in u and ur choise . if u hve already engaged in love marriages, understand ur partner by analysing his situation also .love can heal each and every wound .. love is precious , feel it in u and ur partner. never take decision in hurry just b patient enough .

Answer 10

What is this? It sounds interesting since most marriages have a "minimum" of love in them.