he is younger than I am.Ihave 2 kids and he has 1 kid and now we have 1 of our own. I delivered my baby boy and he looks like him my husband didnt know that he is not the father.So what should I do. I'm still with this man in other country.
2006-12-27 04:53:08 · 18 answers · asked by Paxxiegrett 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In this situation there are several factors you have to consider. First of all does he know the child is his? How is your relationship with your husband? Do you still love your husband? If I were in your position as hard as it may seem I would tell my husband the truth and let him know it was never my intention to hurt him. Now keep in mind by doing so you are putting alot at stake because that would imply that you were unfaithful and if you guys get divorced he could use that against you in court. Being in a very similar situation myself, I think that you should aim for your happiness. As far as the married man you love I would probably tell him about the child if you haven't already done so. Find out how far he is willing to go for you and if he loves his wife. It's a complicated situation but there are kids in the middle and you need to resolve this issue. Make sure any decision you make you think it through and consider all the odds. I hope my advice was useful.
Take care
2006-12-27 05:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have gotten yourself into such a mess. The only way that you can begin to mend this mess is to tell your husband the truth. You cannot go through life loving another man and having your husband think that this child is his. You and your "other" man need to talk and decide what you all are going to do about this. Please make the right decision for you and your baby. Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-27 05:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by TRUST_ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOLY MOLY!!!!
This is a very sad situation. Your husband is going to be so hurt... I hope you do realize that these kind of relationships ALWAYS end painfully.
Im not sure what your question is, or if you just wanted to say it outloud.
So if you are asking what should you do-
Id have to say tell them. Holding this secret will only hurt your husband more. Its not his child, you shouldnt make him pay emotionally for something that isnt his. You should do the right thing and tell what is going on.
2006-12-27 05:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chic to be honest with you... That is so wrong, I don't believe in someone cheating on their husbands/ wives unless he's doing something wrong. Having an outside relationship shows no respect for either of your families and to make it worse you are having un protected sex. That is wrong. I think that if you love your husband you will tell him before it is too late. If he loves you the way he supposed to he should forgive you and try to assist your relationship and make things work if not for you for the kid/s.
2006-12-27 05:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by smallebabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce your husband and try it on your own, you shouldn't be with a man who isn't the father of your child and its so wrong, I wouldn't be able to live with myself if that was my life. I would suggest that you tell your husband that you are no longer in love with him and would like to get separated! And find out from your lover if he wants to be with you or his wife because this thing you're doing is screwed up and you will end up hurting your children!
2006-12-27 04:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a horrible tangled mess you have created. What were you thinking having your b/f's baby while married to your husband.If your b/f was so great why is he still married to another woman and not you?
2006-12-27 05:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like every episode of "The Maury Povich Show."
2006-12-27 04:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question by getting pregnant with the other guy. You have to tell your husband and except the consequences.
2006-12-27 04:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by carangel82 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just like a man....cheating and having someone elses baby! I think your hubby should divorce U and get some kind of spousal support for all te cheating and lieing you have been doing....YUP YUP ur a s***!!!!
2006-12-27 05:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by So you think you know me!? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do yourself and the rest of us a huge favor. You and your boyfreind make a suicide pact and kill yourselves, please. The last thing we need is people like you all having kids and teaching them the same junk.
2006-12-27 05:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋