ok well im bi or whatever and i was with this girl i really loved her we have been over for bout 7 months and she has been with this girl for a while now and its really hard cause i feel like she kinda led me on which i really hate to think that she sais she cant ever get over me and she still wants to be kool but i donno how to keep our friendship together when im trying to get over her i have tryed before to get over her but ididnt work and now its bugging me cause i dont know what to do anymore so can anyone gimme advice on how toget over someone
2006-12-27 04:51:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You have several choices, depending on what is workable for you:
1. Skip town.
2. Stop being bi-sexual. A good male can make your life worthwhile.
3. Positively and actively seek another lover.
4. Get your self real busy, I mean busy like crazy with studying, taking up a new hobby, working, going out with other friends, etc.
This last one works like a charm.
2006-12-27 04:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still hung up on this person because you have nothing else going on. YOu had all this time with this person and now you have all this time and the person isn't there. You need to refocus your time. You don't have to have some one, but you need something. You need to fill those times spent with her doing something else. Knitt, bowl, fish, rollerskate, something that your like or are interested in. You'll create new friends and you will find that you wont be thinking of her as much. There will still be things that will set you off, songs, pictures, etc, but you can be pre occupied and not as free to ponder hew actions. Moving on, means just that. Keep moving and do something else. Don't just do things to do things, cause then you'll be miserable and lonely, but do things that you actually enjoy. What's stopping you?
2006-12-27 04:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about the most hurt full thing she's said or done, even something you found out she's done. Every time you think of her remind yourself of that. You can also tag her with an undesirable nickname, stop referring to her by her name and use the nickname (not when you talk to her but to yourself and close people around you). One other thing, go out and have some fun. It's the memory of her that is so desirable to you, make new memories with new people. You'll forget about her in no time.
2006-12-27 04:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same situation you have been in very recently twice with the same girl. The best thing to do which is what I have done, you have to completely take this person out of your life. Its the only way. It is IMPOSSIBLE to be friends. No calls, no emails, nothing. It will hurt but its the only way. You have to seperate your mind from your heart. You know what you have to do, your heart might not like it but you have to learn to seperate the two. You will hurt but in a month or two youll know it was the best thing you could have done.
2006-12-27 05:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by Nyana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going threw the same thing i could tell you to stop talking to her but she wont like that she still wants to be kool with you right well try to keep it kool with her but dont hang out to much cause then you will never get over her just talk to her everynow and then and when your finally over her you can tell her well how does she expect you to get over her when she cant get over you i think she needs to think bout what shse wants yeah she may want that other girl but give it time to see if she changes her mind date other people talk to diffrent people just be your self try not to be all down things will get better well they should
2006-12-27 04:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by Vanessa Foo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay away from her until you are over her otherwise you are just asking for heart ache. Get back out there and start dating, eventually you will realize you no longer feel the same about her.
2006-12-27 04:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sandra W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to get over someone is to move on with someone else even if you don't like that person as much as your ex. believe me in time you will find your self not thinking about that person any more.
2006-12-27 05:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by felicia j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid her and find lots of other things to do with other people. Leave on a vacation to somewhere else. Keep occupied.
2006-12-27 04:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by momonster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best cure for a failed relationship is a new one, even if it's just a one night stand.
2006-12-27 04:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by Dotar Sojat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals every wound of the heart...Just go out,meet new people,have fun,enjoy life!GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-27 04:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋