Is it possible to be in love with two men at the same time?

Question

I am finding this question haunting me more and more these days. most people will say no, that one is love one is infatuation but i am just feeling lost and like there is no hope. Help

Answer 1

i don't care what any one says...love is love ,weather it be with 1 person or 2...i believe it's sooo very possible as i have been there and still am

Answer 2

I believe you can be in love with 2 men at the same time. Think about it this way if you have several friends that you love it is not infatuation it is feelings. The truth is though it is not fair and you will end up having to choose. You can have feelings for two men maybe each one has a different personality that meets each one of your needs. The sad thing is though you should make a decision or risk losing them both.

Answer 3

Perfectly possible. We have the capacity to love many ppl at the same time. The difference is that each love is unique because we love different qualities in disfferent ppl so no two love is alike. You love one more that the other. The best way to choose is write down the good and the bad about each guy next to each other. Then on a new paper, write what you want and don't want from a guy. Then compare to the first list. YOu are sure to find some results that will help!! Good luck!!!

Answer 4

Yes it is possible. I've been there, and they were both love, no infatuation. The biggest problem is something you already said, it haunts you, makes you feel lost, it's always on your mind, you keep telling yourself you have to choose, but you can't so you become frustrated with yourself. Here's one way to try and look at it logically. Get two pieces of paper, one for each guy and do a pros and cons list for each one.....by this I mean: guy 1 pro-he's kind, con- drinks more than I like, and so on. Really spend time on it, think and list everything that comes to mind. Give yourself a couple of days to do it, every time you think of something write it down right away.....once you feel like you have completed the task sit back and look at your list......Who has more pros than cons. Who has the more important pros, like compassion is more important than the fact that he likes chocolate.....Another thing is to imagine who would be a better father, who is a better friend, who is the one you see growing old with, etc. Put all of this together. Now write down all the qualities you want in a man, and all the things you definitely will or would not tolerate. All of this will give you a clearer picture of the situation and which is the better man for you........then make a decision.....I know it will be hard, and I know you will be sad and hurt when you have to end it with one of them, but it is not fair to either of them to keep going on as it is.....Give your self permission to grieve the loss of a love......spend some time alone with the idea so once you've made the decision you can start being happy with the one you have chosen......I know that you don't want to hurt either of them, but you have to make a decision.........before you loose both of them, and it will come to that eventually. My heart goes out to you, and I wish you luck in your journey...I hope this has helped...

Answer 5

Well actually it is possible, a lot of people on this world actually do fall in love with 2 men. I would suggest that you have to give one up I'm telling you if both men find out that you like another man then they will dump you and they'll think you cheated them!
Trust me! My friend has gone through this and it's terrible if you don't give 1 up!
But really you can just do what your heart feels!

Answer 6

Yes you can be in love with two people at the same time.

(If you are married, you need to think of the consesquences your actions may make. If you have children what it could do to them if you stay with your husband, who you may not love more. But by you being miserable, it may be better to follow your heart for everyone concerned)

The heart is a funny thing. I have learned one thing with real love there is comfort. Comfort includes trust, honesty and working together. When you have found those in one person then you are truly in love.

Answer 7

I think it is possible to love two men at the same time. But it is NOT possible to have a relationship with both of them. You will have to make a tough decision. When you do, then stop all contact with whomever you don't choose. After awhile it will get easier if you concentrate on the love that you DO have.

Answer 8

You must have an interesting definition/concept of love.

Love is kind, loyal, faithful, thoughtful and love doesn't go around hurting other people.

You can be in lust with two people, However, I'm sure if these any one of these two people knew that you were with "in-love" with then and an extra person, there's strong doubt that they would understand. or call what you have for them love. No doubt they would be hurt.

Would it be ok if someone married you and told you later on that they are "also" in love with one other person. Seriously what would you think? Would you think it was love that they had for you? Think NOT!

Answer 9

It's true that you cannot love two men at the same time. It maybe that they both have quallities that you admire. Bottom line is that you cannot love two men at the same time because all that will happen is unnecessary headaches and heartaches. You will have to decide who you will be with or just get rid of them both. You will not win in this situation.

Answer 10

Yes it is!Actually...Human beings are polygamists!But...on the otherhand even if so...there's always one that we like the most...sometimes it's really hard to find out which...
Now, I'll tell you that if you don't want that feeling, then you should stop seeing any of them...look for a quite place where you can hang around for a while...where you can just relax away from both of them...I'm sure it will help!

Answer 11

Yes I think you can be in love with two at the same time I think it's an attraction or need that you get from each of them,whats missing in one you get from the other.