Would you be as annoyed as I am if your boyfriend/girlfriend called you every single night to talk about nothing, even after you've asked them to have a few nights a week without a phone call, in order to have more meaningful phone calls? I mean, I know he wants to see how my day went, but jeez! Can I just have a quiet relaxing night without just sitting there for hours making sounds into the phone? All of my weekdays are the same, I go to work, I go home and relax. That doesn't give me much to discuss every single night. I do love him, but I don't NEED to hear from him every day/night. I'm the type of person that needs a lot of alone time, otherwise I go nuts. Do you think I'm a jerk?
2006-12-27 04:47:34 · 23 answers · asked by KitKat Bar 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
No, I would get annoyed too, me and my fiance live togeather and we have for over a year, and he calls me all the time through out the day for the stupidest reasons, I always get off the phone quick by making an excuse, you could try, talking to him for a few minuets, and then say I was just about to get in the shower, or I was just about to watch this show, its coming on now, or I'm about to make dinner, just be very nice, make sure not to give him the cold sholder, it should do the trick.
2006-12-27 04:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by *STAR* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a jerk; you just need more alone time than other people do to make sure that when you're around other people you're "okay." I would also be annoyed, but I would be appreciative of the fact that my boyfriend even cared to call me or even ask how my day is going. Although calling everyday is too much. Talk to him (after you've had down time to collect your thoughts) and explain that you want to talk to him but not every single night. Maybe 3-4 nights a week, not 7.
2006-12-27 12:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by NK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a jerk, but don't marry him. My husband calls me half a dozen times a day, even though he knows I have trouble walking to get to the phone, and he knows I'm busy doing stuff, and he knows he's just talked to me 5 minutes ago... he calls just to check in. And he calls when he leaves work, to tell me he's on his way home, and do we need anything, even though I've told him 10 minutes ago that we didn't and I'm taking a nap...
Some guys can't exist without the #$!# thing in their ears. Too needy. If i'd known before, I wouldn't have married him.
2006-12-27 12:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dragon has dealt with that. It is okay fer the first week or so, but after that it just feels like they are checking up on you. Kinda annoying. Dragon doesn't think yer a jerk, but maybe you should reconsider being in a relationship with this person. If it is a long-distance relationship, that's different, but if you see each other evary weekend, then phone calls evary weeknight could be a bit excessive.
2006-12-27 12:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by VLIGER DRAGÖN 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lol, no not at all. Lol you sound like how I was from my other relationships. The conversation can run dry, as I am sure you know. Your not being a jerk. Tell your boyfriend how you feel. My new relationship wih my b/f hasnt gotten to that yet, but if it does, well, we both wont take it personal:) Only being we love eachother.
2006-12-27 12:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a jerk. He just needs to respect the fact that you don't feel the need to discuss your every minute of every day. Tell him that.
2006-12-27 12:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lezalicious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a jerk. You need to tell him that there's YOU time, HIS time and OUR time. Or, maybe try to limit the calls to only like 10 minutes or so.
2006-12-27 12:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is great that your relationship is secure and you wouldn't worry if he didn't call every night. Let your answering machine take the call once in a while, to give you a break.
2006-12-27 12:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, i would be annoyed if i've already made it point that i did not want him to call every night. at the same time, you should try to compromise since it seems like he wants to talk to you every night. you should also appreciate the fact that he takes time out of his day to call, since there aren't many guys who care to call at all.
2006-12-27 13:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by lyndsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I'm really surprised. Most girls complain that their boyfriends don't do what yours does, so you should consider yourself lucky. Most men only call when they remember, which is rare. But I can understand how it can get annoying for you.
You should tell him that you need a bit of space and time for yourself.
2006-12-27 12:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by Cheshire Riddle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋