im pregant with triplets but my husband said that he doesnt want them what should i do?? i cant take care of 3 kids alone!
and my mother and father passed away
what should i do!???
2006-12-27 04:46:34 · 36 answers · asked by =X 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
as a man i think i would be tickeld pink to have triplets comming, wish we could have children. he is imature, if he dont want kids. kids are a gift from above. and triplets. wow , even better. i would toss that sob to the curb and make him pay dearly in child support. and everything. but then , hes mind might change once they are born and he sees them. and im sorry to hear about your parents. i wish you the best of luck. not only with the babies but with the dad and may all your wishes come true.
2006-12-27 04:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Munch 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Did you get pregnant on accident.. unplanned? Or was it planned and he counted on only having one.. and will end up with 3??
He is your husband and is the dad no matter if he wants to be or not. Triplets are an amazing thing to have.
You can take care of them if you set your mind to it. Moms are amazing women.
If your husband doesnt come around he wasnt good enough for you much less the babies anyway.
Good luck
2006-12-27 04:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by KTINA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he worried because you'll have 3 babies all at once? He may be freaked out wondering about the financial aspect of this. But, basically you need to decide what you can live with. Having 3 babies and then giving them up for adoption? I mean, what do you want? Would he be upset if you were having one or two instead of triplets? Sounds like he needs to adjust to it, act like an adult and face up to his responsibilities. Can you find somebody to talk about this with, say a good friend, or female doctor, or somebody--in person? I am sorry not to be more help.
2006-12-27 04:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has a responsibility to you and your children. You two have been blessed and all things will work out in the end. Do you have a friend support network? Friends really help out with your need to talk and get advice.
Your husband has to now realize he is a daddy and has to grow up. Whether you leave him or not, he is still responsible to pay support to your children.
Have your family and revel in that. Your life will be so much fuller now that you have a family.
2006-12-27 04:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by sandilo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very sad question. You are pregnant now, too bad for your husband!!! It was meant to be or you wouldn't be having triplets. By all means, do not abort them! If you end up raising them alone, just have faith and your friends will be there too.
2006-12-27 04:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by kelliandjay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats horrible and im sorry.Its a tough situation.let him now that if it wasnt for him you wouldnt be with triplets.Tell him if he doesnt want them then next time he shouldnt have unprotected sex.Thats wrong of him and hopefully you have sisters or close friends or someone reliable that could help you wit this.I wish i knew you better so i could help.This is what my father did to me and my brothers and sisters.sceduale to go to a counsoler.If he doesnt want to trick him in to going.Also tell him whats going to happen to you & the children if you are left alone.If he still says he doesnt want them the best thing to do is divorce.I know its alot but the sooner you do get a divorce the more $$ u can get from him.[[child support]].I know it will be hard expecially if you love him but HELLO if he is gonna pleasure himself then leave u wit 3 kids you dont need him.Dont even think about adoption.THESE ARE YOUR KIDS.Just cause he doesnt want them it doesnt mean thhat u should give them up.keep me posted and best wishes.angela7011@yahoo.com
email me if u need someone to talk to
2006-12-27 05:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by Angela G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the daddy. He needs to step up to the plate and BE the daddy. I don't think I could be with him, however. If he leaves, get an attorney on your side who will MAKE him pay his fair share of the upkeep.
He could very easily change his tune once he's seen those beautifully little babies.
Congratulations on the triple blessing. I really hope he can start to see it as a blessing, as well.
2006-12-27 04:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay so this is a tough situation. If your husband does not want kids then he should have kept his thing to himself. I am hoping that he is just in shock. I would recommend that you and your husband seek counseling to help you decide where to go from here. There are options, help and if you decide that you can not deal with it there is adoption
2006-12-27 04:56:40 · answer #8 · answered by wesleyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please whatever you do.... Don't have an abortion! Triplets is a wonderful thing, the government will help you with that. You can ask your doctor of some places that will help you. Its great help. your husband is an as$hole. If he doesnt want 3 beautiful babies that you both created, then he isnt worth it. He wanted to have sex didnt he? Girl... Get rid of that man, you deserve better.
2006-12-27 04:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by yahoocraze 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have your babies! He's your husband, you two are supposed to be on the same team so to speak and this is not a small decision. If you want them KEEP THEM!!!! If he loves you he will be there for you. He helped make them and he should take responsibility for it and not be an *** and tell you he doesn't want them.
2006-12-27 04:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋