dont get me wrong I enjoy being with my husband, its just that my toys get the job done and he rarely does? Sometimes when we finish, or when "he" finishes, and he leaves the room, I play with myself just to get off... Is that bad, any advice? I could never tell him...
2006-12-27 04:35:59 · 38 answers · asked by ashes n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
also, he doesn't like my toys, I think it kinda creeps him out, i dont know
2006-12-27 04:39:47 · update #1
there is no way I should feel ashamed, I am the best, he has never complained, he always gets off, he is more than satisfied...
2006-12-27 04:43:55 · update #2
all the answers have been a big help, but maybe it has nothing to do with sex at all, maybe its more, like does he even turn me on anymore, I def need to talk to him about this, I just dont want to hurt his feelings, I knw this can kill a guy, I mean sex is supposed to be a mans pride area...
2006-12-27 04:54:26 · update #3
Maybe you should try telling him in a subtle way. Try using toys with him as well, or suggest you two spice things up... maybe you just need to be the first to make a move.
2006-12-27 04:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by unicarel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him! And you need to explore each other more. Have him help you play with your toys, it is just as great of a turn on for him as yourself. You have to be open about your sexual needs and foreplay is very satisfying for both you. The more foreplay for you, the more you are into receiving him.
Don't be afraid. I am a phonesex operator, and I council alot of men and women who have the same questions. Explore each others needs and wants.
When one partner thinks they shouldn't say anything, the other is thinking the same way. So NOTHING gets said at all. Thats when the boredom sets in. Take all your toys pack them into an overnight bag and take him to a motel, and tell him.......this is what I want and need........what about you? He'll be right on top of it (or you) as the case may be!
Good Luck!
Let him see that the toys can be joyfull for both of you, ask him to help you, place it and take his hand to help you, it isn't going to bite him and you need to show him that!
2006-12-27 04:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first thought that came to mind - is lack of sharing your true feeling's, and something is causing you to hold back - Another thought is maybe he already knows - You just don't think he does - Girl - I feel like I need to whisper !!- and, this secret your hiding - might put a wedge, Where a wedge doesn't need to be , if you'll maybe share - your toy's as an idea - for the both of you to try together - You both might find it to be pleasurable make a light game of it -- it sound's like you have a good imagination - Have Fun with it -- Pattijo
2006-12-27 04:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by pattijohughes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there is nothing wrong with it but I think you should communicate this to your husband, maybe the two of you can combine the two things or he can try something different, to be able to get the job done. After all, that type of play can prove to be advantageous for both of you and lots of fun. I would rather get off with my husband but if I couldn't, I would try to include him. Don't let something like this drive a wedge in your relationship...because it can and it has happened to many people.
2006-12-27 04:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by earthstarlatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I don't think it is wrong, my bf likes to use those on me, but you should include him so both can enjoy them, if he does not do enough to get U satisfied well he can help U to play around w/ your toys so he can enjoy to see U getting satisfaction, those things excite them too. Be honest 'cause if he finds out about it he would get mad @ you for not telling tem how U feel. U guys should go together to a store and buy something for both.....
good luck and enjoy your husband but let him know U better and teach him how to give U satisfaction
2006-12-27 04:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sex life contines to be unsatisfactory, you will become very frustrated. SO try to find a way to incorporate your toys, or heighten the passion, lengthen the foreplay, penetration time, etc so that you are also satisfied. I think this needs to be done subtly because some men can not handle criticism on sex.
2006-12-27 04:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you oughta speak up, and tell your husband what will get you off, and what he needs to do to you to get there. Toys are fun, but you have a real live breathing companion for life leaving the room? It's time for class to be in session...and your husband is the prize pupil!!
2006-12-27 04:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shuold have a conversation with your husband...and also I think that since you haven't spoken to him about your satisfaction...you just use the toys to feel better...what are you waiting for?Everytime you use the toys you feel even more into it...and things just become worse with your husband!Talk with your husband and if he agrees...start using the toys with him...let him do it for you...gradually you'll have no need for them!That sounds exciting!Come on...dialogue is essential, otherwise you'll never feel really satisfied...even with the toys!
2006-12-27 04:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by jokersmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband loves it when I reach for my toy. He doesn't care how I get off as long as I do with him. Your husband should take an interest in your satisfaction and enjoy seeing you in pleasure. Communication seems to be lacking between the two of you. This is the real issue. Never feel guilty about taking care of your self. He should want to learn how to best please you.
2006-12-27 04:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by momonster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your rhythm is all wrong. Incorporate the toys into the FOREPLAY. so that YOU finish FIRST. usually it takes the woman longer to achieve orgasm. Don't make a big deal out of it, just instruct and play with them while he is watching. Guys love that. It's in ALL the porn films.
Good Luck, let the games begin.
2006-12-27 04:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋