I understand that he is not going through what I am and I have heard that some guys don't really realize it until their child was born. Is this the census?
2006-12-27 04:35:48 · 24 answers · asked by sunflower222 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Um, well lets see.......my oldest is 9 an my youngest is 9 months, and I'm still waiting! LOL - He's a man, and probably scared, and worried. He'll be fine. It took my husband 3 kids before he would even do anything with them while they were babies. Don't get me wrong....he's a great dad, but like most men, he's scared of babies because they don't know what to with them. Give him time. After all, he is a man! LOL
2006-12-27 04:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine has always gotten excited when he saw the HPT results, and stays excited throughout.
He's one of those men that absolutely loves the look of pregnancy. We're only week 10 into #3, but each pregnancy he's gotten more and more "into" it. This time, every night before I go to bed, not only do I get a kiss goodnight, but so does baby =) He also already talks to my tummy, telling baby to be nice to mommy (terrible morning sickness - all day long some days).
2006-12-27 14:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by lilly_rose_starphase 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is sorta into it but also kindof indifferent. He thinks it's cool to feel the baby move but it kinda freaks him out too. He's excited about having a girl since I have 2 boys and hes got 1, this will be our first together. But he acts like his normal jerky self to me most of the time, and really doesn't act like i'm pregnant. He acts like it's just an excuse for me not to do things like laundry or dishes or even cleaning the litter pan. We have had some of our worst fights because I'm pregnant. He's laid off from work right now and is home all the time and expects me to come home from work and cook dinner even though I'm 33 weeks and my dr. wants me off my feet as much as possible because the baby has been sitting too low...
But, not all husbands are jerks like that. Just have him go to as many OB appts as possible and get him to read up on your pregnancy as much as possible. Give him Daddy related reading material... it might help.
2006-12-27 12:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend got more involved, where the baby was concerned, after we had the ultrasound. That's when our son became real to him. Then he would talk to the baby a lot and always touch my belly. But he was always involved where it concerned me. He was always getting me something to eat or helping me get around. Every guy is different, though. If you feel he's not interested talk to him about it and find out why. He may need some encouragement, or he could be scare. Or maybe the baby just doesn't seem real to him yet because he can't see or feel them.
2006-12-27 12:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are weird. Much more weird than women:) When I was pregnant with our first, he wasn't into it very much at all, it just isn't real to men. We feel the baby and are much more aware of our bodies. Plus, he and was only 19 ( I was 18 turning 19). But once he saw his baby, he was in love and is a great dad. I think his age had alot to do with it. We are expecting our second and my husband is very into my pregnant body (He loves my huge boobs-lol) But he's not into baby clothes or buying the things we discarded after are now 4 yr. old didn't need them anymore. He is concerned with how our baby will be born and how our son will react to his new sibling. I'm sure your man loves his baby and the mom to be:)
2006-12-27 13:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by Dolphin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband wanted to get excited but was afraid to. I know for him it became real when we had the first ultra sound and he could see the heart beat. He really did remain kind of distant. I think that he was always worried that something was going to go wrong. For us, we experience everything, the sickness the movements ect. Our husbands are on the outside looking thru the window wishing that they could come in. That is the best that I can explain.
2006-12-27 12:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by wesleyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am really dissapointed at my husband. i am 35 weeks pregnant and he doesnt touch my belly to feel the baby move. and im always the one talking about the baby and he just listens. i thought hed be more sincere but he isnt. this is our 2nd child and he was the same with the first very distant. but he is a good father. just dont give me the lovin i want while im carrying our child.
2006-12-27 12:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by malibu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im almost 32 weeks and I can honestly say he seems not the bit intrested in feeling kicks, or any other pregnancy concern I may be feeling!! HE WANTS THE BABY!! I just think some guys are grossed out by the situation.
2006-12-27 12:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by lisamarie7901 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend never really got into the whole pregnancy...yeah he would talk to the baby and rub on my stomach about 6 months in, when he could SEE the baby moving and feel it moving... make the guy go to the ultrasound with you..my boyfriend almost bawled. Let him n the room to listen to the heat beat. It will make it so much more real to them.... when the baby starts kicking where you can feel it, grab thier hand and pace it oon your stomach...the baby might chill out. that makes daddy feel good too "hey my baby calmed down when i touched her stomach!" or whatever. the more i involved my bf the more excited he got
2006-12-27 12:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by psychoticangel_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my son he finally got into it about all the times I was having the false alarms and making him get up in the middle of the night to rush to the hospital. But with my daughter being our 2nd he really didn't get into it at all. Some guys are better than others. It just all depends on what kind of man you have.
2006-12-27 12:46:47 · answer #10 · answered by Kristin R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋