how do you control your emotions?

Question

I was on my way to meet a freind today when I got a call regarding some bad news. I gathered tt since I were already ready to have fun, I shouldn''t spoil the date by arriving with a sulk. It sounds easy, but it wasn't. Need some helpful suggestions.

Answer 1

"emotions" are called that because the emote (come forth from within). It is not the feelings that emote which you control, it is how you will behave because or in spite of them. The Bible tells us to 'be ye angry and sin not.' I bring this up, not to preach but to simple demonstrate that the feelings are legitimate and the thing we control is our behavior.

And how good of a friend is it that you were on your way to meet? Is it a friend that wants to share your sorrow and your joy? If so; perhaps the plans you had should have been altered to meet your sorrow. If your 'bad news' wasn't hearth shaking, then perhaps you could have simply explained that you received some bad news and that it has dampened your mood a little. Then your friend would understand that it was not him/her who you were responding to with your 'gloominess'.

Be open and honest with your friend. Fun can be had at another time. Certainly you want to be there for your friend when bad news comes their way. They want to be there for you. If not, they really aren't a friend.

Love, Peace and Joy... bud

Answer 2

First one has to decide whether it is appropriate to regulate certain emotions...in the case you describe it would have been better to talk about the bad news, or at least admit that you just recieved bad news and you are not in the best spirits.
Other circumstances such as sad feelings long after a relationship has ended need to be regulated since they tend to spiral downward until they have no real basis in reality. In these cases the stop think method works well most of the time. You need to remember that thoughts come before emotion and can effect it, so one purposefully tells oneself to stop thinking badly about it, and then purposefully tells oneself to start thinking positively about some aspect of it...it takes practice, and feels artificial at first but it works.

Answer 3

It's never going to be easy. You could simply tell your friend, then excuse yourself if you need to regroup.

Answer 4

.....you become apathetic.....