Ok see i was abused and neglected as a child and i am now 22 and decided to try councellin again. it only was 2 meetings my first was decideing who i needed to forgive my second was forgiving them. I think i need to have some more meetings because i have a lot of trouble on how to view love and see God as father and some trouble trusting. i had a dream a reallu long time ago that the leaders i was with took me in a room and prayed and interceeded for me and i came out healed cuz God reached inside and took out stuff and replaced it with his love. but maybe that was just what i wanted i dunno. Anyways do u think i am right in that i need more councelling or is it just between god and i?
2006-12-27 04:24:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Anyone who is abused and/or neglected cannot be held to a timetable in terms of how they feel towards their past. It seems very much like your counselor tried to 'push' you to some sort of resolution, in the hopes it would clear the way towards your getting past.
But that's kinda like asking a overweight person to lose 50 lbs. by the next session. Those 50 lbs. didn't spring up overnight, and the only sensible thing to do is to help the person realize that the overall goal is to lose 50 lbs. but that it needs to be done in steps.
The more important question is: what affect did the abuse and neglect have upon you? What did you learn, or not learn, through the abuse/neglect that you need help with? What happens is that certain types of behavior, especially when we are small and impressionable, essentially 'teach' us things about ourselves that we would not have learned in a different situation: things like 'I have no self worth' or 'I have a hard time trusting people' or 'no one listens to me and my needs'.
In counseling, hopefully, the counselor/psychologist/psychiatrist helps you assess the person you are now, the person you want to be, and how to get from here to there. Religious faith can be a tool that augments (helps, assists) counseling, and perhaps the belief in a 'higher power' that does love and care about you is what you need initially to begin to recover. One can even say that 'God', through the work of counselors/psychologists/priests etc etc., is trying to demonstrate to you that the 'bad' stuff doesn't have to stay with you forever.
To go to counseling doesn't mean you can't go to church or believe in god, and vice versa. Why not use the best each has to offer and let that help you heal.
2006-12-27 04:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Khnopff71 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with the first post. There is no way you could have worked through years of pain and abuse in two sessions. Along with counseling continue to use your faith as scaffolding, and between the two you will come out on the other side much improved. You are headed in the right direction.
2006-12-27 04:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by Buttercup - VP Bamma Fan Club 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we need external help as long as it leads us inwards towards God and forgiveness. Once you have forgiven your past and repented then forgiven yourself then one does not need external help. One should have a spiritual Guide though. But one should be extremely cautious and sincere in choosing. God is within but a spiritual Master or Guru helps one understand God and How to love Him and What God actually wants. go to krishnaculture. for understanding of Universal Truths.Read Bhagavad Gita As it is by Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada
2006-12-27 05:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I COMPLETLY UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THUR. I WAS PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY NATURAL FATHER. IT TOOK ME QUITE A WHILE TO TRUST PEOPLE IN GENERAL. EVERY MAN THAT I CAME IN CONTRACT WITH I DIDN'T TRUST. IT WASN'T UNTIL I ACCEPTED CHRIST INTO MY LIFE. IT SAY IN THE BIBLE Psalm 55:22 Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall. ONCE WE ASK THE LORD TO FORGIVE US OF OUR SINS. HE COMES INTO OUR HEARTS. THE LORD IS FAR BETTER THEN SOME COUNSELOR. IT IS A TERMPORRAY FIX. THE LORD JUST DON'T PUT A BAND AID ON YOUR HEART. HE RESIDE IN OUR HEART. BECAUSE HE IS YOUR FATHER. SATAN WANTS TO KILL AND DESTORY US. BUT IS WHY CHRIST CAME AND DIE AND ROSE AGAIN. TO GIVE US PEACE WHILE WE ARE HERE ON HERE EARTH. AND HEAVEN. BUT HAVE TO BE THE ONE THAT MAKES THE DECISION TO RECEIVE HIM OR NOT TO RECEIVE HIM. HOLD ON TO THE WORLD THAT HATES US.Matthew 7:7
Ask, Seek, Knock
7"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.
Revelation 3:20
20Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me.
I HOPE YOU WILL CONSIDER
2006-12-27 06:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of the dream replaced into God's way of telling you that he ought to do this in case you sought him. i could pray to God first and seek for his will before going greater beneficial with counseling. He is conscious of all. inspite of the actual shown fact that he's conscious of approximately your dream, tell him that the activities which you have expressed to us right here on the region are what you need him to do. have self assurance in him, have confidence him, and ask him to bare issues which will provide help to be attentive to that he helps you. this could help with your over-all have confidence ingredient. shop your eyes, coronary heart, and ears open. it incredibly is going to ensue. good success! chuffed vacations!
2016-10-06 02:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by grumney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can tell that God won't heal you. That doesn't mean that he doesn't exist, that just means that he wants YOU to be able to wipe your own butt. And the counselor can merely help you, only you can save yourself.
2006-12-27 04:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Buchyex 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋