ok well i am totally against pre maratial sex!! but i have been wondering about this............. if a guy like fingers you or like if you have oral sex does that mean that your not a virgin anymore?? again this as absolutly NOTHING to do with me it is just somethin ive been thinking about..........
2006-12-27 04:19:12 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
all of your answers are pretty good but dont act like this is about me honestly i dont want to but my friends think it is ok & i want to be able to tell them why it isnt!!
2006-12-27 04:32:10 · update #1
That's a very good question, and I'm sure you're not the first person to have asked that before. The word for premarital sex used in the Bible is "fornication" which comes from the greek word 'por-neia'; which includes any act of using the sexual organs with anyone that's not your legal spouse. So the answer to your question is yes gettin/preforming oral sex, as well as getting fingered is still considered fornication, which means that in God's eye you (anyone) are no longer a virgin...
1Corinthians 6:9---this Scripture is going to help you
2006-12-27 05:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Christian so I'll help you out. First off, though, I'm not one to judge because I've made the mistake if you know what i'm saying. But I think that girls(and guys alike) should wait to do those kinds of things because The more you do the more "okay" it becomes and then you go further and further before you even know what you're doing. And ESPECIALLY don't let anyone fool u into thinkin y'all will get married. Even if you "know" that you're going to marry that person still wait(even if you're engaged) because anything can happen. Like I was told at camp this year by a leader there, she had slept w/someone b4 she was married to them(she was against premarital sex too) and they broke up n she said "and now I'm gonna hafta explain to someone that I gave that up to someone else" Hope this helps.
2006-12-27 04:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by princessdez122008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, you are no longer a virgin when you have sex for the first time and your hymen is broken and you allow penetration. However, if you allow oral sex or fingering you can still lose your virginity and let's face it, if you have an orgasm with a sexual partner you are no longer a virgin. If a male allows a woman to give him oral sex or a hand job, he is no longer a virgin.
2006-12-27 04:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a virgin until your hymen is broken. You should visit your library and pick up some books on sexual education. All your questions will be answered if you do a little research on the subject. You should learn all you can before having a sexual relationship. Also research on the Internet that's even easier.
2006-12-27 04:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is gratification. The bible encourages out to keep our minds on things that are pure and kind and lovely. This activity apeals to our flesh and should be avoided until marriage.
Set up healthy boundries. Always be in the presence of friends or family members.
Chances are you want to enter into your marriage night with the absolute knowledge that you saved yourself for your husband and that you are presenting him with a gift. Doing this type of activities will cause you have some guilt on the night of your marriage and cause martial tension.
2006-12-27 05:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by 2 know Him & 2 Make Him known 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're getting fingered and having oral sex, that just makes you a sl*t. You are still a virgin.
2006-12-27 04:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason to abstain is a spiritual one. So even playing around and climaxing is not the right thing to be doing. Go to a good paster or women's prayer group, they can recommend some books or cds that will give you the info. you need. better than i can.
2006-12-27 04:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by swamp elf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fornication is what takes away virginity, and fingering is that.
Medically a virgin is a different question. Medically, if you break the hymen you are no longer a virgin, so it is possible that it could take away your "virginity"
2006-12-27 05:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still a virgin until "intercourse" has occur ed. But bibically speaking, God wants you to remain pure of any sexual activity until marriage.
2006-12-27 04:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read 1 Cor chapter 7
really.. the people i respect most are 25-26yr old married pastors with like 5-6 kids :P
be constructive :)
2006-12-27 04:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by honorablepassion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋