if age of consent is 16 can i....??

Question

alright i turn 16 here soon, and my boyfriend, the father of my baby, was banded from seeing me until im the age of 18 because of his age, now since the age of consent here where i live is 16, should i be aloud to be with him & raise our daughter together as long as my parents agree that it is okay?? please help me out, because they are going to try to keep him from seeing his daughter until im at the age of 18 too, and we'd rather be together to raise our first baby, we made the mistake and we believe that would should be together to take care of what we did since it was our responsibility.


thank you.
-Michila

Answer 1

If the ban you mentioned is a court order, then no, you will not be able to be with him for another two years. Just because the age of consent is 16, you are still a minor until the age of 18.

Answer 2

Before I offer the advice from my 60 year old brain I'd like to sincerely wish you good luck and I hope you can raise your child happily no matter what you decide to do about this specific question. It is important to keep the child's best interest in mind always and allow that to be foremost in any discussions about all of your futures. If 16 is the local age of consent then you could presumably marry (or just live together) the father and start your own household without any problems with the law. But without a lot of support from both families your lives and the child's will be very hard
You haven't said how old the man is and this makes several plausible discussions appropriate. If he is say 5-10 years or more older than you then I say, don't, don't, don't. This person is not a mature father type and your relationship will not long endure. If he is younger than you, don't even think about it. All of your lives will be wrecked even worse than now. If he is 2,3, maybe 4 years older then I have questions that might rationally guide everyone's decision making process. Is the only problem your parents have with him the fact that he made you pregnant? If your parents could get past this are there enough resources so that your families could support your small family until both of you can get an education that will allow you to have decent employment? Is there any doubt that both of you love one another? Would you marry this person if both of you were 5 years older? You know what answers to which of these questions will make your likelihood of success high or low. Answer these in your own mind and then, if you haven't decided against your emotions (which are obvious) pose them to all the others involved to reach a reasonable conclusion.
It sounds like your parents are sticking by you and that alone could mean everything in the life of your baby and you. I strongly recoomend that you do not alienate them. Good luck on this rocky road.

PEOPLE: The deed was done. Think beyond your wishes to correct a wrong; this cannot be done in any case. The child is the first concern of everyone in order to not perpetuate the circle and to try and let that child have a decent life with two parents. Then, the welfare of the mother, then the 'man' (and I agree that his actions were reprehensible -- if he is in his 20s he should be in jail), including both their educations so that they are not burdens on society, then assuaging the social consciences of the families and us. And I don't consider the latter important at all at this point.
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Answer 3

Whatever you do, make sure you finish high school.

Is keeping the child and raising it at the ages of 16 and 18 really the best option for you both AND your child. Think of what kind of life you will be giving your child and all you will be giving up.

If your parents agree, why would they try to keep him from the baby?

I gotta say, I don't feel real bad for this dude. He KNEW when he slept with you that you were underage and that his actions were illegal. Now he has to pay the consequences. In all honesty, it sounds like you and and baby will also be paying the consequences for the rest of your lives.

Answer 4

Michila ? you did not tell the state that you live in ? would you come back ? and how old is the father ?
In the United States, all but one state requires that a couple be 18 in order to marry without parental permission. Nebraska sets the age of majority at 19. Although a few states will waive this requirement if there is a pregnancy, the couple may still have to have court approval.
Delware, Florida, Georgia, Kentucky, Maryland, and Oklahoma: Allow pregnant teens or teens who have already had a child to get married without parental consent. However in Florida, Kentucky, and Oklahoma, the young couple must have authorization from a court. Maryland requires that the minor be at least 16. Even with parental approval, many states will require court approval when a person is 16 years of age or less.


ps:please come back and i will look up the law for you .......

Answer 5

The same answer as I gave on your other post about this...

Who’s trying to keep you and Boyfriend apart? It doesn’t sound like it’s your parents (although frankly if you were my child, I would the one keeping you apart), but maybe the court? Apparently you were under the age of consent when you got pregnant, therefore, boyfriend broke the law, and the fact that you are NOW at the age of consent makes no difference. If he’s not in jail for this (not clear in your post, but kind of sounds like he’s not) then I suggest you be very thankful for that (I guess, although personally I think he belongs in jail far away for all the other little girls in society) and not make any waves about anything.

Answer 6

OK I read a statue for rape in the second degree:

Section 13A-6-62
Rape in the second degree.

(a) A person commits the crime of rape in the second degree if:

(1) Being 16 years old or older, he or she engages in sexual intercourse with a member of the opposite sex less than 16 and more than 12 years old; provided, however, the actor is at least two years older than the member of the opposite sex.

Now if your boyfriend isn't in prison ... he could be. You and him should understand that at the age of 15, you can't make sound decisions. You are a baby with a baby.
I am glad that you realize you are responsible for this child. When you state "to raise our first baby" are you trying to say you plan on more children with this man?

Answer 7

Good for both of you. Trying to do right by your daughter, but if he can not legally be near you until 18, then there is no raising her together until you are 18. If your parents were to consent to him helping you to raise her, then maybe the order could be lifted, but you also stated that your parents will see to it that he stays away until you're 18. Talk to a lawyer about what you can legally do. Best of Luck.

Answer 8

That means that the is the age that you are "allowed" (or it is okay) for you to have sex. It does not mean that it is okay for you to have sex with someone over eighteen. No matter what, it is still considered statutory rape. Even with your parent's consent, it would still be considered rape. Bascially, it does not matter how old you are. You still have to wait until you are eighteen.

Answer 9

You should keep yourself and your baby away from your "boyfriend"

Not because of any law, but because he is a child molestor. If you are about to turn 16, and you already have a baby by him, that means you were 14/15 when you conceived.

If he was over 18, then that makes him a sick pedophile who should have been executed.

The fact that it was consensual, merely makes you a naive little girl, and later in life you'll realize that you were the victim of a sex crime.

Answer 10

hopefully you are toking the right steps to live a good normal life, having a child at any age is tough, my hope for you is to get an education, and rely on yourself. It is okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from them, and change your behavior.