after all this time he thinks the grass is greener on the other side and may want a girlfriend or even switch to a sheman? How can this be happening to me after all these yrs? I don't know who I am married to any more and it really scares me. sometimes I think I would be better off by myself.
2006-12-27 04:08:23 · 14 answers · asked by mae 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That really is unfortunate, I know you are trying to soul search to figure out what went wrong (Don't!), there's no explanation and it's a midlife crisis to see if they missed out something (STD's), I wouldn't even want to be having a relationship today unless I had medical records. The grass is never greener on the other side, it looks good for a while and then it gets weeds (same as at home), It is a matter of how well do you deal with your own gardening. Your husband must want to give up, if you haven't sought marriage counseling try. If that doesn't work you'll know what to do. I know it's hard, believe me I know. I wish you the best of luck and may you prosper through out all of this.
2006-12-27 04:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that would depend on how much the plus is, if your still in your 20's it's because of your age. Until someone is at least 30 they are constantly changing.
After 30 you start to settle into your lifestyle, however if the plus is in your 40's or 50's its probably a mid life crisis or andropause.
A lot of men don't believe there is such a thing as andropause but there is, ask a doctor, it's a chemical imbalance that some men go through usually in mid life.
2006-12-27 04:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me tell you that I am sorry for what you are going through. I have been with my husband for almost 2 years and would die if this were happening to me. Secondly, your hubby is probably going through a mid-life crisis or a stage of confusion. The best thing I can tell you to do is pray and try to talk some sense into him. If he still feels that way, I would leave him and he'll probably come to his senses then. If not, you were better off without him. Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-27 04:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by TRUST_ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are not entirely happy, when is the last time you did something for yourself. Why don't you take up that old hobby or start a course you have an interest in. Start doing things that you want to do. It sounds like you are burnt out and have been neglecting you.
2006-12-27 04:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by gina g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure that I could blame you for your feelings,sounds as though he may be trying to go back in years possibly(mid-life crisis)I think that would be caused by his own insecurities of himself ask him about it and then inform him of the years he is about to throw away on a whim and how is he going to feel when you are through and going to find someone else we are much to valuable to be doormats if you still love him tell him but also let him know you will overcome........................good luck
2006-12-27 04:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mid-life crisis!!!! People grow and change constantly - even after 20 yrs, and you think you know them. For you to think that perhaps you'd be better off alone - you probably will. Let this be his crisis - not yours.
2006-12-27 04:28:06 · answer #6 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably will be better off without him. Things get mundane and if they don't 100% love the person they are with and committed forever then boredom, young chicks and freedom will take them away. He never loved you completely if he wants out. So find someone who will love you that way.
2006-12-27 04:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its called a midlife crisis, Honey. Be patient. It will probably pass when they find out the grass isn't so green or the lawnmower is rusty!
2006-12-27 04:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a mid-life crisis to me.
2006-12-27 04:11:32 · answer #9 · answered by Double 709 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants his fantasies to become a reality. In a situation like that, you would be better off by yourself.
2006-12-27 04:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋