ok i was in jail for 3weeks over a traffic committment(suspended lisc.) when i got out i moved in with my b/f. he said he loved me and wanted me with him always. well...i get this phone call one day and this chik was on there and she asked who i was, i told her his g/f and she's like really?? she says that the weekend b4 i got out of jail they were together and had sex 2 times. 1 time at her house and 1 time in OUR bed. ok i confront him, he appologizes, & promises he'll never do it again. the thing is now i find it hard to believe and trust him. he says ineed to get over it(only happened 4weeks ago) and i am trying to. n e 1 have any advice? i love this man and want it to work but don't want to be a fool in the long run. oh...he asked me to marry him on xmas and i accepted but my 6th sense is telling me somethimg ain't right. am i just paranoid?
2006-12-27 03:40:46 · 14 answers · asked by flirty eyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU need to get over it? If he says stuff like that, what he's really saying is....
"She caught me. I said I'm sorry, and she's still at me about it. So the next time I cheat, she may be unpleasant again."
He's NOT going to stop cheating at any opportunity. Any time he thinks you won't see it.
Get over it? I say, get out and get over him.
2006-12-27 04:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your in-stinks are right, you were only gone for 3 weeks and if he couldn't hold off for that short of a time then there is a reason, he was probably doing it before and you just didn't catch him.
People usually don't have affairs unless there is a reason, normally its because something they need in a relationship is not there so they search elsewhere, but in your case it wasn't something, it was someone.
He needs to learn to keep it in his pants unless he is with you, if he couldn't do it for the short period of 3 weeks then he will do it again.
Get out while you still can, his apology doesn't sound sincere, it sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too.
Your better then that, find yourself someone that respects you enough to give themselves only to you!
2006-12-27 04:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater...always a cheater. He doesn't sound like a good guy if he took advantage of the fact that you were gone. Especially since his response was that you need to get over it!
2006-12-27 05:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with ur gut feeling, most of time that sixth feeling is prettty darn credible. Listen to urself, and if ur in doubt, there is something wrong. Pay attention to detail.
2006-12-27 03:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by ESQUID 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your 6th sense. Get out of that relationship.
2006-12-27 03:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by Kristina C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always go with your sences! And he can't put a time limit on when you should stop feeling hurt about him cheating. Good luck!
2006-12-27 03:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the life of a jailbird.
Like he said, get over it, or not.
Does she live near your trailer park?
2006-12-27 04:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would not trust him. why would he ask you to marry him when he just cheated a month ago. i would kick him to the curb but keep the ring. you deserve it
2006-12-27 04:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by mj_jll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i don't trust no man as far as i can throw him. if i was you i would concetrate on yourself and leave that man that has no respect for you. if you can't trust somone there is no relationship. i hope i answered your question
2006-12-27 03:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by starpower729 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the player do not trust him...once a player always a player
2006-12-27 03:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by c_kaper@yahoo.com 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋