I have some cousins that did not have Christmas with us because of my fiance. I do not know why they do not like him and it hurts, because they have no reason to talk, since thier daughter has lived with other guys and has brought them to Thanksgivings and Christmas' and we gave them Christmas presents and spent a big amount of money. I am so sick of my relitives telling me that he is no good for me, when they do not know him. I LOVE HIM with all my heart, though he does have some faults but we all do.
2006-12-27 03:35:30 · 5 answers · asked by blessedfriend2000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do not know why they do not like him.
2006-12-27 07:48:29 · update #1
i'm blessedFriends Fiance I Love Her More than anything in The World and yes i TreaT Her Good i'm Very Loving Towards Her and i Love Her Folks also they Remind me alot of My Grandparents and i Respect them more than they know .... I Moved Too Minnesota for Her i Left Calif and i wanted Too Return Too where My Family Roots began.
2006-12-27 10:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by derek_34_7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ultimately your love life is your business. If he was being abusive or mistreating you I would say that perhaps you need to re-evaluate the relationship and see if marrying this guy is in your best interest.
If it is simply a matter of your family meddling where they should not be then you need to be very straightforward with them and put them in their place now before you get married. You need to let them know they will either have to accept him because you love him and you feel hurt when they disrespect him or they need to stay out of your lives until they can be considerate. I think sometimes family can be very hurtful and think they have a right to stick their nose's in business where it doesn't belong. Put a stop to it now or things will get worse for sure...
2006-12-27 04:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is happening before you get married, don't think it will stop after wards. My brother-in-law, who convinced himself that he doesn't like me because his brother saw me first, uninvited me to his house for Christmas. This is something that has always been looming in the background, and he finally hosted it, so he thought he could do that and still get his brother (my husband) there. We just took pizza over to friends who weren't doing anything and decided we'd spend Christmas eve with "chosen family" instead. But it's not going to get better.
You're going to have have to decide if your fiance or you family is more important to you because you're going to have to be making that decision for the rest of your life.
2006-12-27 03:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You failed to mention WHY don't they like him? What are his "faults?" Does he treat you good? Screw the relatives if they are critical 'cause he's poor or the wrong religion or race or ...
BUT is he a "loser?" You are not gonna change him.
My soon-to-be step-daughter usually "falls in love" with losers...unemployed, THIEVES, drug dealers, liers & so forth. I don't care BUT when they've stolen from me, they are history! Also, I've had a friend that seems to chooses the same. So don't bring them around me 'cause I don't need the grief from shooting them.
2006-12-27 04:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by mike s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
complicated...wait it out
2006-12-27 03:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by diniba69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋