child support?

Question

how do i make my case move faster...i just filed it after my baby was born and they told me it's going to take about 6 months...my ex might leave town with his wife who by the way i don't think she knows he has a kid with me..they got married after we broke up..they might move to hawaii...my ex has no desire to visit my daughter coz up to now he said he's going to visit but we are still waiting.my daughter is already 2 months..any advice?

Answer 1

Yep, and get help quick!

Answer 2

Things are more likely to move faster if you hire an attorney. You'll have to put down a retainer but once you have an attorney, he can subpoena your ex's financial earnings from his employer and any other information necessary for your case. Lawyers can get things done alot faster including getting your case brought to court or at least getting a date set for the court appearance. Your ex will be required to show up for the hearing or the court could potentially set child support without him being present and he won't be able to fight it. It is in his best interest to stay put because once it is set they can track him down based on his social security number.

If your ex doesn't want to be a part of your daughter's life then don't try to force him to. Chances are he will be inconsistent and unreliable. He will make life miserable for your daughter and you because he will always be a disappointment as a father. He clearly isn't a good, responsible person so why subject your child to someone like that?

Answer 3

What you probably did was file through your local child support department...that was your first mistake. They are so back-logged that it literally could take years honey. Here's what you need to do step by step:

1) Go to your state's website and click on your county icon.
2) Find the downloadable forms icon and download the ones for child/spousal support (they are free to do in all 50 states now)
3) Fill them out to the best of your ability, get them notarized where they say to and then go and make 4 copies.
4) Take them to your local courthouse, pay the filing fee or talk the judge and have it waived and get yourself and immediate courtdate (under teh circumstances of him moving, you should be able to express this to the clerk who is able to expedite things)
5) she will date stamp them, give you a court date, keep one copy and give you back 3.
6) Immediately upon leaving the courthouse, go to your county sheriff's dept and fill out the necessary paperwork to have the ex served (bring all the info you can on him, license plate no, job address, home addres, phone numbers etc...the more you have the easier it'll be to serve him) You will have to pay a small fee for service and then leave the sheriff with two copies.
7) once your ex is served, the sheriff's department will return one copy to you with a stamp of proof of service.
8) bring that copy and your own copy to the court date and get your child support order enforced. Then, even if the ex leaves, you can still file countless contempts to get him to comply with the order.

All this should take, in all honesty, about two - 3 months as long as paternity has already been established or he's not contesting paternity. If he is, add in the amount of time it would take for blood tests.

I hope this is helpful honey and I wish you luck. The key is to catch him before he leaves. The long arm of the law does not stretch across state lines without an order.

Answer 4

I think waiting 6 months is ludicrous. You have a baby to support and feed! Please get legal aid if you can't hire a lawyer. Usually motions to petition the court for things such as child support should only take about 6 WEEKS, not months.

Also, visit your local welfare agency. There is a program called WIC for women that are pregnant or nursing. You can get dairy products, cheese etc for free.

You also may qualify for welfare if you are not working. Good luck.

Answer 5

Just be the best parent you can be... you can not control the situation down in the court system, just pray that the move does not happen until you have your court date. In the end he is going to suffer because when your child gets older they are going to wonder WHY? The woman he married, if she is any type of woman she would not allow him to be a dead beat father to his kid.

Answer 6

I assume he's just an ex-boyfriend, not ex-husband. It's a shame your daughter's father doesn't want anything to do with her, but I also hope you don't look to your daughter as an extra income for yourself. Granted, there are alot of men who leave their women high and dry when it comes to having a baby. But I know alot of women who just want to squeeze every penny they can out of the father. It takes two to make a baby. Somewhere, women have to be held accountable for their actions, as well.

Answer 7

Where do you live? also check this out on the web OCSE they can help you for free. you need more advice email me okay. oh is he in the military? you mention hawaii. take his azzz to court and OLE WIFEY WILL KNOW ABOUT YOU. not to start anything but THE ASSZZHOLE MUST take care of his child. you can go to HRA and file for foodstamps medicad and tell them he refuses to give you money. they will send the boys after him too! dont be stupid if you need asst let me know. i hate when woman let these men get away with this!

Answer 8

Unfortunately in Ireland they are not as hard on men who run out on their responsibilities. Go to your local citizens info centre they will help you with any queries and more than likely have any additional forms you may need to fill out, plus if financially you are struggling they will tell your entitlements. So if your ex runs out you can manage solo.

Answer 9

Numero UNO. Please, for your sake and the world's, make sure this doesn't happen again.

Numero DOS. Make GD sure its actually his.

Numero TRES. The only way to make your case move faster would be by getting an attorney. Which, if you can't afford, you should take some deep breaths and prepare for the worst. Maybe its better if you just let him f..k off. You're setting yourself up for years of bitter b.s.

Number QUATRO. Make better decisions.

Answer 10

Go to your nearest attorney general's office and ask how you can speed up the process

Answer 11

Be patient. If he does end up paying, it will be a lot more than a lot of women have. Good luck, I think you are great.