My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while now and he told me that he loved me...I wanted to know if he was sincere so i opened a myspace page under another females name and added pictures. I then wrote him a message, just having a good conversation, when i then decided to ask if he was single. and he wrote back single and lovin it. When i confronted him out about it, he put it on his dead mothers grave and the holy bible that he loved me and wanted to be with me, the next day he proposed to me. What should i do. He still doesnt know that all along he was talkin to me on myspace. He lied to me and said he stopped talkin to "the girl" but i know he didnt because hes talkin 2 me...there is no other girl...what should i do? We are now engaged and yet he talks about meeting up with "this girl" and chillin with her. but then everytime "the girl" forwards the messages to my email...he stops talkin to her for a couple days and then is kissin my *** but then he's back at it. HELP ME PLZ!
2006-12-27 02:50:32 · 22 answers · asked by Honeycomb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats a tuff one. I would tell him that he needs to be a one woman man, and that there isn't enough of him to go around. I don't understand why he is doing that. Is he replying with real things about his life to you, or is this just something he is screwing around with?
2006-12-27 02:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by cdmwva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have "the girl" question him about his life, is he still single and available? Dating anyone or wants to eventually get married? If he answers yes to the first question and no to the others, tell him ok, you will meet with him. Then the real you needs to "just happen" to show up and tell him you have a gift for him. Give him back the ring and walk away without saying anything more. He can figure out the rest.
2006-12-27 03:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to your question in your heart. "He's so NOT the one" The question now is? Are you that desperate to get married knowing deep in your heart that you'll be married to a man who is quite obviously a liar and a cheater.
What you see before marriage is what you'll get after marriage. It doesn't change. And you can't change his character or his moral value. TRUST this! Bottom line is... If you're not able to handle or live with the very worst character flaw or behavior in your potential mate (considering it may never change or may get worse) then you should NOT marry under any circumstances.
Don't be fooled. You know in your heart you deserve better so don't deceive yourself and play mind games thinking everything will be ok. Follow your intuition, gutt instinct and that RED FLAG warning signal that's going off in your head. RUN! It's not worth it.
2006-12-27 03:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by 247 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did a similar thing to my BF. He was chatting with women online, but denying it when I confronted him about it. I created a fake online account and started chatting with him as "the other woman", and he took the bait. It was just chatting at first, then he started flirting and asking sexual questions, then he started asking her to meet up with him. He blew off work one day to go meet "her", and when he got there, it was me. And he still tried to deny it!! LOL!!!
Girl, you already know the answer to your question. Your man is telling other women that he's single, and he's trying to meet up with them. He's doing this with you as "the other woman", but he may be doing this with other women that you don't know about.
Seeing how you know he's willing to go this far, do you really believe you can ever trust him? And would you want to marry someone that you'll have to check up on for the rest of your life?? You should have enough evidence by now to know that he's not worth your time. He's going to cheat eventually.
2006-12-27 03:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Heather C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL, you wnated to know so you found out. The important thing is though that he hasn't cheated which means you can leave now without being hurt. I think everyone has a healthy fear of being cheated on but her is the thing will you be willing to allow it knowing this and staying in spite of will do nothing but create tension so I say leave, especially if you won't accpet his behavior because it is obvious to me that he enjoys what he does and that's a habit of his.
2006-12-27 03:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by souljagirpart2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a great idea. Pretend you are the girl and meet up with him.when he gets there it will be you then bust him. But hide so he doesn't know it's you until you can spot him face to face. Tehn see what he has to say then tell him it was you talking to him the whole time.
I would honestly leave him. He is lying and if this pretend girl wasn't you it could have been anyone else.
goodluck
2006-12-27 03:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
showee...okay, why not tell him that you would really like to meet him. Make a time and a date, see if he comes. If so, he will find you waiting there....if he is a smart boy, he will put two and two together. He shouldnt be telling other girls (you) that he is single. But tech. he has not cheated on you....
I would still go on with the ´lets meet plan´
2006-12-27 02:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by BadGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, orry you got in this situation im sure you really care for the guy and wanna trust him and love him,,, but rust me, someone who's been there, this is one lie you know about and know he plans on meeting up with this girl who is fake, just think how many real girls you dont know about and he could be meeting up with them already! trust me, there are other guys who are good guys, they dont all lie and cheat i promise, you need to brake up and fast!!! it starts out you knowing somethingsmall like this and ends you finding out a lot of other stuff he's done later and i hope you dont marry him and ruin your life! he's not ready to be married! just think how married life with him will be, never trusting him and never knowing if he's lying because hes probably so good at it. i been there, just find someone else to keep yuour mind off him and never go back to him, hes a dead beat
2006-12-27 03:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by call_me_LaLa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you are desperate for a man give him back the ring with a copy of the last email. dont be stupid. remember if you hadn't did this, you wouldnt know what type of bastarrrdd he is. it's good that you did this. HE IS NOT TRUTHFUL TO YOU. dump him. if he can lie and state his life on bibles AND YOU KNOW HE IS LYING, what kind of person is this FOR MARRIAGE???? you would be the BIGGEST FOOL around to marry or stay with someone of this character.
2006-12-27 03:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by sexy c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl, you know your not dumb or stupid. come on! think about it! what about the "other girls" (girls he also flirted with without you knowing)?!
and if ever you'll confront your bf, guess what, he will deny about it full blast!
learn to cheat proof your relationship coz u know the main reason why guys cheat? its because they are in constant search for something or someone to fill that feeling of emptiness inside or there could be something that is lacking in you that they could find with other girls.
think about it, would you like to settle down with a guy like that?
2006-12-27 03:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by Enya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋