I've been sleeping with my bestfriend boyfriend for 4 months i feel so bad what should i do?

Answer 1

Here's a crazy guess about what you should do considering that you feel soooo bad...Stop doing it! Either leave your boyfriend and start new either on your own or with the other guy or come clean and try to work things out with your boyfriend, that is if he is even willing to try to make things work with you considering what you and his best friend have been doing behind his back. Obviously there is something lacking within your current relationship or else you wouldn't be going outside of it to meet your needs or perhaps it is that you are lacking something within yourself and are being very selfish & need to stop putting yourself first especially when you are in a relationship with someone else. Personally, I think that maybe the better choice is to just leave them both alone because apparently, you need to work these issues out on your own and are not ready or able to be in a committed relationship. You need to work through why you would do this and your own selfish needs before you can be in a relationship with anyone else. Take care and good luck and own up to what you've done. You made your bed and now you have to be mature enough to lay in it too...

Answer 2

Rhonda P,
Here's what you do first; Recognize that you are not her best friend anymore. The minute you made the decision to sleep with her boyfriend you lost the right to call yourself her best friend.

I am not going to tell you that you should stop seeing/sleeping with her boyfriend. No one should. What good would it do?

Second, you need to figure out how you plan to tell her. Believe me, the truth COMING FROM YOU will be better than hearing it from her boyfriend. Boyfriends have a tendency to put all the blame on the other woman and none on themselves.

Now, you asked this question because you want an easy way to tell your best friend what's been going on and still salvage your friendship. That's not going to happen.

You two are best friends because of the trust you have in one another. However, you have committed the ultimate no-no against your best friend. There is no getting that trust back. You, as her best friend, have taken that away.

So, to clear your conscience, tell your friend. Don't write her a letter either. Don't call her on the phone. Don't send an email, text message or IM. You were woman enough to sleep with her man then be woman enough to tell her to her face. It's going to be hard. Your friend will prefer hearing it from you, the person she trusts.

Always remember that you reap what you sow.

Answer 3

You have obviously never been cheated on....It is one of the most humiliating betrayals. The fact that you are supposed to be best friends only compounds the betrayal. You are not a real friend and she deserves a better man than she has. Put yourself in your friends shoes and think how you would like it if she was sleeping with your bf. You should stop sleeping with someone elses man, confess to your BEST friend and take what's coming to you. IF A GUY HAS A GF, ESPECIALLY IF YOU KNOW HE HAS THEN HE IS OFF LIMITS. Oh yeah, and if you feel so bad why have you let it go on for 4 months?!!!

Answer 4

What is worth more to you?
A best friend or a guy that will have a girlfriend and then sleep with her best friend too.
Keep in mind that you also fall under the same catagory.
Unless you plan on haveing a threesome you have probably destroyed your freindship with her over someone not worth it.
You could end it but she will find out about it eventualy.
The only real choice you have is should you tell her or wait until she finds out about it herself.

Can't help you there, Sorry.

Answer 5

What kind of a friend sleeps with their BEST friends boyfriend?! Ever hear the saying, ´Who needs enemies with friends like you´. Okay enough about that... u say you feel bad, rightfully so, u should for starters call it off with this guy. Cos he is no good for you or your best mate. And you should tell your best friend. Yip she will be angry at you, but you cant expect nothing less. If you sorry, which i think you are, cos else you would not of asked for advice, then tell her how sorry you are! She is your best mate, so maybe you guys can work thru it. Let us know how it goes!

Answer 6

I would come out and tell her. She might hate you for the rest of your life, but she will also know that her boyfriend is not faithful. This will prevent him from going off and sleeping with some random girl. It's probably better that he's sleeping with you then with the random girl. But, your bestfriend still might hate you. Good luck...

Answer 7

For one - stop referring to yourself as her best friend because....YOUR ARE NOT. You obviously always envied her anyway...that is why you just had to have her man. You are sorry but not apologetic because you have been doing this for over 4 months so it is not accidental and don't pretend to have any remorse.

Leave him and her alone and go on about your business. Too bad you can't buy decency and class because you truly need some.

Answer 8

Go jump from the bridge.
I'm sure this is a fun question.
Noone who's a decent friend, leave alone "best-friend" would ever do that.
I do not know if ur friendship can be salvaged, but if u have any humanity, TELL ur friend, & receive whatever treatment she decides.
& if something is serious between u & the other traitor, well, it is very human, so don't now try to be noble & give him back, & don't expect ur friend to take hiom, ur leftovers!!
God save u!

Answer 9

Either she's not your best friend or you're just a person with no morals at all. So if that happens to you in life, you know you can't get upset right? What goes around comes around.

Answer 10

if u really feel bad, stop sleeping with him and maintain a close distance from him. this guy is definitely not a good bf. tell your friend the truth.