My hubby and I have been married for 2 years. Prior to that, I was single for 2 years, and prior to that married for almost 5 years to another man.
Our sex life was absolutely amazing while we were dating. We both were very comfortable and open with each other, and very active with each other. I mean, really great.
After moving in together, it just sort of fizzled out. I went through a phase, and I think it had a lot to do with my birth control pill at the time. But now, he is totally uninterested too.
Is there something wrong with us? We are both of the theory that sex isn't everything, and that love and trust and friendship is what makes a good, long term marriage. But sex is something, and I am starting to feel like something is really wrong here.
2006-12-27 02:31:41 · 19 answers · asked by nottashygirl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sex IS something. But fear not. This happens to most couples, and you can work through it. First, you need to talk about it. You need to express your frustration, set your goals, and make a plan. It may help to see a couples' counselor to help you get started. Second, you both have to make an effort. Take a trip together. Rediscover your love. Have a romantic dinner. MAKE TIME FOR LOVE!! Finally, if this does not work, then one or both of you may need some medical advice. Maybe one of you is unhealthy, depressed, or suffering from some kind of dysfunction. See your doctor and tell them your problem. It can really make a difference!
2006-12-27 02:39:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In a way sex does fade a bit after marriage, the woman is tired all the time, the man just want to get it on. But you see that's because you wasted all the great ideas and interesting lingo in the time of your dating and now there's nothing left. The thing about marriage, you have the rest of your lives to enjoy sex and each other. That should motivate you. Keep talking about the good times you've had in the past and then dress up the way you used you. Surprize him now and again playfully with game tickets, a 3 coarse meal, a glamarous outing with friends, dancing with him to his favourite music, singing to him etc etc, be creative. There's so much to do and sometimes in so little time and it's important that you use it while you still can. Love him and show it. Dont worry, you're not alone.
2006-12-27 02:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by Spicemom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 19:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is most definitely something. That is where you express your love for one another and where the realm of intimacy is created. Sex is not enough to make a marriage, but is sure is enough to break a marriage. Seek some counseling now before you both become repulsed by looking at one another.
2006-12-27 02:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with oyu. sex fizzles after a while for a lot of people it is no big deal. try to keep a sex life for the sake of eachother though, maybe make a goal. twice a week ,you each try to do something spontanious once a week a that will start the sex up. maybe jump in the shower with him when he isnt expecting it.
2006-12-27 02:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to talk to each other. Communication is very important in a relationship. It could be he thinks something is wrong too. It will be bad to find out your both thinking something is wrong and everyone thinks the something but, since you’re not talking about it nobody knows. If all else fails go to counseling.
2006-12-27 02:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by Scott8684 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone is getting it some ware else. Sex is a big part of any relationship, and you know what they say. If you are not getting it at home you are getting it some ware else. Who ever told you that about sex was dead wrong. You yourself had a great sex life when you were dating. If it gone now, something or someone changed. Ask yourself this, if it stays this way will you just sit a home thinking about it or will you get it some ware else?.
2006-12-27 02:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is something! But if both of you find it not a necessity for as long as you believe you can make it good and have a long term marriage then, why worry?
2006-12-27 02:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by Gimeon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your husband about it?Because maybe you need a little romance in your life. All marriages go through this ,I have been married 7 years and we have gone through this a couple of times. Sometimes stress can cause it .
2006-12-27 02:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by jenn.eric 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is VERY common in marriage. You just need to get the sparks flying again. Surprise him one night with some candles and sexy lingerie. Give him a massage. You got to get the wheel rolling again, that's all. Good Luck and have fun!
2006-12-27 02:35:13 · answer #10 · answered by Lt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋