Being happily married for two years however my wife confessed to me about 6 months ago she had an affair lasting about two years with her boss which happened 4 years ago. I now feel diiferent towards her and don't realy trust her as she may again see him again. The old saying once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-12-27 02:26:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get away from her for a while
2006-12-27 02:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by hiding1959 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you get either forgive her,or bring an end to your relationship. Normally when someone is so bent on one act that someone else committed,and they can't even see the person the same,and everytime they think about it,it brings back hard feelings,they normally don't get over it.
If you don't get over it,your relationship will take a spiral downward,and not for the best. You can embrace the situation,see her confession as a way of bringing out the truth,and wanting to create a trust with you,or you can distance yourself,emotionally and possibly physically and cause both of you heartache. There is such thing as forgiveness,we all can have the courage to forgive someone once,you know her heart,and if you know that in her heart she loves you,and she wants you,then you can forgive her.
2006-12-27 02:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, here I go again. There is never a reason to cheat. It doesn't matter when she cheated during the marriage, the fact is that she cheated. How can you ever trust her again? I think that the bond of trust is broken and can never be rebuilt. I agree that each cheating situation is different, I think once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-12-27 02:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater is just a saying made up about men who were always bouncing between woman, it is just a myth. The fact is she came clean with you and told you when she didnt have to. give her some credit for that. on the other hand be hoenst with her and tell her she shouldnt hide things from you and tell ehr how you feel. as long as you keep good communication and honesty in ther relationship you can never go wrong. she made a mistake ,she is human we all do it once in a while, so forgive her and move on so you can enjoy your marriage together.
2006-12-27 02:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you and her should have discussed this before you were married, but have you told her all of the one night stands or women you have been with, since she is telling you this now maybe she needs to know you still love her no matter what has happened in the past, but if you do suspect that she is cheating again, then ask her to be truthful with you, you've only been married a couple of years, let go and see if she goes astray
2006-12-27 02:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by broken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that saying is always true. Unless you have hard evidence that she is cheating on you, then you need to trust her. After all, she was honest about this relationship w/ her boss, and you two are married. Give her a chance before you freak out on her!
2006-12-27 02:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was your relationship at the time? If it was not committed she was just playing the field and not cheating. If it was committed, I would be forced to employ my zero tolerance policy for cheating.
Imagine decades of being with someone you cannot fully trust.
2006-12-27 02:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was the affair before you were dating? If so, then you need to let it go. But you should talk to her about your feelings. It helps to get reassured that you are the only one.
2006-12-27 02:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First rule of friendship by no skill pass out with a pals boyfriend or ex-boyfriend, if ex-boyfriend ask your chum first if she is happy with it in case you value that comradeship, and to me he would not sound like that large of a seize, and once you went out with him the wear and tear has already been executed. positioned your self in her footwear and alter the placement around, i think of you ought to basically decide for the guy which will sometime sell off you and have that on lower back off lower back courting with you basically like he did Britt, and whinge to his new lady chum that he's uninterested in providing you with such various possibilities.
2016-11-23 19:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So she has been cheating on you before you met her. That's pretty bad.
2006-12-27 02:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋