hi, i'm a 23 yr old guy. i have a girl friend. i love her. i dont know whether she loves me or not. but, she likes my company. i want to converse freely, jovial, funny and humourous with her. even she wants me to be humourous n jovial with her. but, wen i meet her, i used to be shy. after speaking few words, i dont know any other things to speak with her. i just remain silence for a while. i think im boring her.
how can i carry on my conversation with her for a long time? wat r all the things i can speak with her humourously, jovially n freely with her?
wat r the things girls would like to enjoy while speaking with a guy? how can i do that with her?
i want to be very cocky and funny. i want to make her laugh and happy all the times by speaking with her freely and humourously. how can i do that? wat r the things i have to speak with her?
pls list out many things....help me...thank uu...bye
2006-12-27 02:22:56 · 9 answers · asked by balu m 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
just be yourself the rest will come
2006-12-27 02:25:22 · answer #1 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend, making out a list will not help you very much. Why? Because it's not you. You have to be yourself in every situation no matter what it is. If you are not 'naturally' funny, humorous, or whatever, you can't force that issue. You can't have a pocket full of jokes ready to tell at a given moment. You need to sit with your girlfriend and listen to her. Most conversations are feedback from what the other person has commented on. For example, if you have read a book that you thought was good, share that. Whatever the topic, you should have something to say about it - you're a part of a big world and there are many things going on, even with this site - you have numerous things you can talk about just telling her what happens in this forum. If you work or attend school, there is always something to chat about. There is music, art, dance, news in the world, families, all kinds of things to talk about. You can't force funny. To be honest - most people are funny or say something funny without even knowing it. Whatever your personality is - let it shine through. If she really likes you, she will let you know - and it may be through a smile. You say you love her, but you don't know if she loves you back. Have you 'said those words to her?" By the time we get to the "I love you's hopefully, you and she have had many good conversations and feelings about each other, otherwise - it's a one-sided deal. Just be yourself. I can tell you this - read, read, read - all kinds of books, magazines, newspapers: that will give you a great source of things to talk and laugh about.
2006-12-27 02:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you just relax and just talk about everyday things like how was your day and what are your favorite TV shows and what's your favorite movie, etc, funny things will just come up in the conversation. If you are a funny guy you will be funny no matter what you are talking about. You shouldn't have worry about putting a comedy act everytime you are together, just let your natural humor come out in conversation. If you are both sitting there in silence that means that she too is nervous about what to talk about because maybe you make her feel that way, loosen up a little. Go somewhere loud and fun and have a martini, I'm sure funny stuff will come out.
By the way, girls love to talk about anything. But the things to exclude are the obvious, like sports, fixing things, Star Trek and other boring stuff like that. We love to gossip, even about people we don't know like celebrities. It sounds like you are from a different country, if she is American or not from your country also, talk about your country and the culture and the food and your family, etc. Just ask her lots of questions and she'll love to answer them. Also in complete silence awkward moments when there is nothing to talk about you can tickle her or something or tell her she's so cute and love when she laughs, all that mooshy stuff.
2006-12-27 02:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and be yourself. The funniest things to share will be things that naturally occur and happen....not "planned". Smile, hold your head high and be sure to be honest, loyal and kind. Be open about your feelings with her if you really like her. In other words, tell HER that you are still a bit shy and "new at dating" and take it slow. Don't have major goals or expectations. If it is meant to grow into a permanent relationship....it will. By the way, girls like humor...not *********. Girls like guys who can make them laugh by just being fun to be around....(not necessarily because one can "tell jokes" and/or do funny faces) Girls do like to be teased but in a friendly way....not in a derogatory or personal way. As for what to converse about? Depends on you and your girl. You can converse about a movie you just watched, about events on the news, about books you read, just about anything! Girls usually are good about leading and talking...just follow her lead :) Take care. Cyndi
2006-12-27 02:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by mastaocanasta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This belongs in Singles & Dating (under Family & Relationships), not Women's Health.
However, the key is to just be yourself. If you cannot think of anything to talk about then perhaps you are not a good match together.
If you need to be provided with a list of topics to discuss or jokes to tell, then the chemistry isn't there for a good relationship. Just relax and let the conversation flow...
2006-12-27 02:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hold up, here. You can't force yourself to be something you aren't. (Women do not like cocky.) If you two do not have anything in common to talk about, then you haven't met the right girl. You are only 23, so be patient.
Sounds to me like you just met this girl if you can't seem to have a conversation with her.
2006-12-27 02:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one ingredient you mustn't do is be cocky. i've got met adult adult males like that, and that they are large turnoffs. It looks such as you have no longer particularly in many situations going on her that long, it quite is why you're so quiet once you're at the same time. communicate approximately issues that interest you, and ask what hobbies her. tell her humorous, clean jokes. Be a chum to her, besides as a boyfriend.
2016-11-23 19:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know man...but the first rule is that you MUST be yourself.
Show her your real and true self. Don't pretend because if there is a chance for you and her to proceed your relationship to marriage and build family, then...your relationship foundation may not be that strong.
I may not answer directly your question man but I just want to remind you one thing...be yourself.
Good luck man.
2006-12-27 02:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by floatingcloud78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if we tell you what to say then you wont be natural and that "fakeness" will come across. if she likes you she likes you for being you.
2006-12-27 02:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋