My boyfriend seems frustrated cuz I didnt tell him I spoke to my ex (kids father) yesterday. It wasnt on my mind, and in the evening he looked at my cell phone and saw his number. So I told him I must have redialed it from when he talked to his daughter on xmas. my ex called me later at work and asked why I called, He said he could hear us in the background. So I accendeintly called him int he morning and he called me back a few hours later to see how come - which it was a mistake that I redialed. Anyways, yesterday my boyfriend and I spent alot of the day in alittle arguument and it wasnt on my mind to tell him, and I dont see why I should have to remember every little thing to tell him! What could I say to my boyfriend about this? He is thinking that I was gonna hide it or just not tell him about it, but its just not on my mind the.
2006-12-27 02:16:13 · 8 answers · asked by GreenEyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your boyfriend is just having that EX anxiety.
First, tell him that you are not still interested in your ex. Then, tell him that the ex is your child's father and that you will be talking to him whenever you need to and that you will not be reporting it to him(boyfriend) because it is not his concern. If it does concern him(bf) then you will let him know.
That may seem a little mean but he has to know that you must talk with the ex and you should not have to give a report or ask permission every single time.
If he can't accept it then move on
2006-12-27 02:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by Wild Honey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound a little condescending about the whole thing. "I dont see why I should have to remember every little thing to tell him!" It's like this. It kind of sounds like you called him on purpose and then lied about it. Even if you called to only say "Merry Christmas," you could have told your new guy the truth about it and had less trouble on your hands. But because you have lied (I assume your new guy is just suspicious at this point), you created a problem.
I'd probably have questions too. You might still be in a young relationship and he's trying to make sure you're not going back the other way. Just say that with all the stuff going on with the holidays, it slipped your mind 'cause you were more focused on enjoying Christmas and food and friends. BUT, if you did call your ex to speak to him, you should be honest about that with your new guy.
2006-12-27 02:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by mezhenari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's amazingly unlawful in maximum of techniques. the father sounds like he's obsessive and slightly a stalker. in the experience that your pal isn't careful, she would be able to get herself right into an excellent form of subject. If companionship is what she is calling for she would be able to get from others her very own age. this occasion can get out of hand and the guy may be caught as doing some ingredient statutory. Your pal needs to end what ever that's with this guy till now it gets any further out of hand. If it gets decrease back to her mothers and fathers, they'd pursue it to the subsequent point & it's going to be a criminal action.
2016-10-19 00:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres the thing - to you its nothing but to him its more like this. You talked to your ex behind his back. Its like you were hiding something (even if it was little or nothing to you). There can be lots of trust in any relationship but the second you go behind his back and do this it feels like somethings going on. Thats why you HAVE TO TELL HIM RIGHT AWAY when you talk to an ex even if it is something small to you. COMMUNICATION NOT MISCOMMUNICATION that is the key.
2006-12-27 02:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by infiniteson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to grow up. He knows you have children and needs to expect that you will have to speak to your ex from time to time regarding them. If he can't accept it, and trust you, then it is time for you to find someone mature enough to handle the situation! And that you are not going to explian yourself, every time you have to speak to your ex!
2006-12-27 02:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfriend that you and your ex have children together and he has to understand that. there is no way you can avoid talking to your ex. he is either going to have to trusdt you or it isnt going to work. be honest with him, he has to understand you are in the middle.
2006-12-27 02:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are a grown woman, and you have the right to speak to whomever you please, especially if it's the father of your children. your boyfriend is going to have to accept that and get over himself, because the world doesn't revolve around his wishes. damn, it's the holidays, and he throws a hissy fit about a father checking in on his child? you don't have to explain anything to him, you didn't do anything wrong.
2006-12-27 02:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he needs to understand that's your childs father and you can talk to him when you want to. he needs to get a grip, this is petty behavior.
2006-12-27 02:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋