My sister and brother in law divorced about a year ago and now they want to work things out again and get back together. The thing now is she expects me to just accept him again, but he has been horrible to her and i know he will continue to be and if i stay away i wont hear their problem and if i talk to him again i will be in the middle again. So is it best to stay away and let time take care of it for better or worse?
2006-12-27 01:33:31 · 12 answers · asked by asere 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Always err on the side of family. Support your sister. Be outwardly friendly and keep your feelings to yourself. If they end up back together, you don't want any additional strain on your relationship. I'm sincerely hoping that by being horrible to her you don't mean physically abusive. Good luck.
2006-12-27 01:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where you her sounding board? Sometimes the relationship may not be as unstable as you might hear, she may not be giving you the whole picture. Keep that in mind when welcoming him back, but be leary. Tell her that you will still love her, but her decision bothers you and because of what she has told you, it doesn't sound like an ideal situation. Then you need to talk to your BIL and let him know where you stand and to tell him you will not tolerate any mistreatment of your sister. If they are still hell bent on getting back together keep your distance for awhile and see what happens....Good Luck
2006-12-27 01:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay as far as possible from their relationship problem but try to keep up date with your sister and advise her if necessary! Observe is usually the best thing to do in this situation. Good luck.
2006-12-27 01:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by mamagorilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love your sister, but you do not have to support her decision. She may eventually turn on you because of this but at least you were honest and caring enough to stand up for her best interest. She has to make the choice. Good luck.
2006-12-27 01:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by furiousstyles22003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, for the sake of your relationship with your sister, stay out of it as much as possible. In fact, your disapproval could push her even closer to him because she will feel sorry for him and she will want to prove you wrong. This happened with my sister about 12 years ago. They ended up getting married, and he beat her up and cheated constantly. It didn't take very long for her to divorce him.
2006-12-27 01:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be civil to him, but show her you support her no matter what. Don't turn your back on her just because she is making a decision you don't like. If it doesn't work out, she needs to know she has you to look to. Never give her the "I told you so."
2006-12-27 01:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Green Eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved in that conflict. Let them do whateverthey want to do. Just be a civil person.
2006-12-27 02:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to respect the decision taken by your sister and please keep away from their relationship. Let them live their life as they feel to do. But do support your sister in time of crises as she will need you.
2006-12-27 01:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confident, vast mistake! You have been in the kin as quickly as, and that they ordinary then you. Now it could in simple terms mixture issues up and confuse concerns. in simple terms think of the type you could experience if it have been reversed. in the adventure that your sister replaced into to date your ex. (in case you have one, otherwise think of!)
2016-10-06 01:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by geddings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it it is their business let them be grown ups and handle it . they will work it out and if it is meant to be then it will work out . good luck and god bless .
2006-12-27 02:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋