I made plans with a friend early one day for later in the evening, about 8pm. I called about 5pm to confrim plans because this friend always seems to run late, no courtesy call or not show up at all. They confirmed that they would still like to get together at 8pm. About 9:30pm no friend and no phone call. Not the first time this has happened. I had called once and rec'd no answer after awhile I called again. My friend seemed to have not been to concerned about our plans once again and had no excuse why they did not call. Are people really like this and should it be tolerated? I tend to get over things like this but am to the point where it makes me feel shitty! Any suggestions?
2006-12-27 01:11:50 · 17 answers · asked by Lisa Marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A thing that matters to one might not matter to another. They might find informing you redundant either because they have never been in this kinda situation before and dunno how annoying it is or they are super tolerant. However, I tend to believe they are in the former category. So maybe you should tell them how you feel. Worst comes to worst, 'gang up' with some friends who feel the same as you and let them experience what you had gone through for so many times. All the best!
P.S I must say it is indeed rude of your friends to do that.
2006-12-27 01:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by lahlahland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend like that, but she also has 4 kids. I understand her running late and being absent minded. However, if your friend is single with no children, then I would take offense to that. You should come out and ask the friend what is going on. If they don't want to hook up, just say they have other plans. Nothing wrong with that. If this is a true friend, then you should be able to say this to them without anyone having hurt feelings. Thank you.
2006-12-27 09:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the only suggestion i have is to tell this friend how you feel and let it go...explain that you are worth a courtesy phone call....and then that is it..... if they want to go to the movies or dinner or anything else then let them make the arrangements....and if this happens you make sure you show up....its better to treat a person like this with kindness and then maybe you will rub off on them.
2006-12-27 09:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by Gemini P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend would have called and not stood you up. If it's happened in the past and you've said at least call if you can't make it, and it's happened again, this "friend" is being disrespectful, untrustworthy and disloyal. I don't think I could consider this person a friend.
2006-12-27 09:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, stand your ground. I would suggest that you make plans with another girlfriend. She is not worth the wait anymore. Once or twice can be tolerated. Any more times then that, its time to kick her to the curb. Let her make her own plans.
2006-12-27 09:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a true friend. They do not seem to care about your feelings and are not respectful of your time. You can either tell this person how you are feeling or just move on. Good luck with your decision.
2006-12-27 10:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by adrianez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are close friends then you would think you would be able to express your feelings to her. If it's one thing that i've learned these past few years is that if you are hurting from something your best friend has done or said to you, then that person needs to know. Just be honest. If that doesn't work, find someone else to go out with.
2006-12-27 09:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No ! I will not and can not tolerate any friend like that ! It's so selfish and rude man ! You are UN normal if you feel ok with this my friend ! Tell them straight and if they seems like there's no big deal then ...... stay comfortable without them .Good luck .
2006-12-27 09:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by mamagorilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask this person to do anything again? Wait till they invite you. IF they don't then you know where you stand with them. True friends will be true to their word or at least give you a call once in a while.
2006-12-27 09:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Carolina_on_my_Mind 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were you (and I did have a friend like this once), I would ditch them. Friendship is not supposed to be selfish and it sounds like this friend of yours does all the taking. I wouldn't feel bad about yourself, it has nothing to do with you. This person feels a sense of entitlement and I'm sure you are not the only one they crap on.
2006-12-27 09:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋