2006-12-27 00:53:59 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
k for 1.. my daughters peditrician even said she was spoiled! and For 2. I have a swing and a snugli neither of them she likes... and i recently bought a bumbo chair b/c she likes to sit straight up and she hates that too. I agree that she should be held and talked to but i also have other children. I would love to just sit all day and talk to her but is my house gunna magically just get clean? Someone going to come make my kids supper? Do my laundry?..
2006-12-28 03:24:47 · update #1
I don't believe that 4 month olds can be spoiled. They don't stay four months old. Before you know it she'll be running around and you'll remember these days fondly and wish you cherished them a bit more. I'm not saying you need to hold her all the time but if need your hands free you can try a sling or a snugli or you can invest in a swing. Good luck.
2006-12-27 00:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 5⤊ 3⤋
First of all...NEVER prop a bottle in a baby's mouth. They can choke to death.
Secondly, some babies are needier than others. I understand how you feel because my daughter was the same way a few months ago. She's 4 months old now too and is pretty independent. Get her some interesting toys...we have a Playskool gym that plays music when you hit certain parts of it. Lay her down on blanket and let her explore it. Maybe what she's craving isn't so much you as it is something fun to do.
I don't think plopping your kid in front of the TV is a very good idea. Give her something fun to do that will help expand her mind. They have lots of great toys on the market that are fun and educational.
One other thing you can do is maybe set her down in a bouncy seat or lay her on the floor and talk to her there, so that you're not holding her, but she still sees you. Walk away for a few minutes every now and then, and if she cries, that's ok. Come back and pick her up. Basically, you just need to work with her a little bit to get her more independent. She'll come around. For now, though, enjoy her while she's little because they grow up so fast.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 02:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by braks_gurl 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Breathe, and now take a deep breath. Relax.
You are becoming a parent and that lasts a lifetime. That is not spoiled. The nurturing of a child is the most important at early ages. The baby is developing. You are helping the baby develop.
Perhaps you need a relative to come and help you for a few hours. Perhaps you need to call a friend to come and help for a few hours. Perhaps someone you trust from church can come and help you for a few hours.
Then you can take a shower, take a nap or just rejuvenate your spirit for awhile. Perhaps now you see that many mothers especially those of young children, don't get enough sleep.
If you still have this irritable feeling, please call your ob/gyn as this may need their help, and you may need a checkup, or at least tell the doctor or nurse over the phone how you feel. You are their patient, and they need to listen to you and how you feel.
GOD bless.
2006-12-27 01:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I promise you...you will not spoil a baby by holding her too much. And talking to her is only going to help her learn. If you think it's really too much then have her lay on a blanket for "tummy time" for five minute periods at first, then gradually increase the time to longer periods. When she is having her tummy time, let her play with a few toys and keep a close eye on her, but don't pick her up or talk to here until the time is up.
2006-12-27 02:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am of the opinion that four month olds are not spoiled. They are needy and only have the ability to communicate need - it is the parent's job to figure out what that need is whether they are tired, hungry, in pain, etc. Some babies require more interaction than others.
Four months old - it goes by fast - keep the interaction that is needed and when you have things to do, distraction is good - play music, there are certainly enough toys out there and go about your business, passing by their crib or "safe area" occasionally just to say, "You're fine - I will be there in a moment," and finish up what you need to do without feeling guilty. Believe it or not but they understand that after awhile.
2006-12-27 01:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by trancin_gal 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
My daughter is 4 months old also. She's begun that stage of wanting to be held, walked around, talked to and played with all the time too. It is hard to do it all day but just look for the light at the end of the tunnel, before you know it she'll be running around all over the place!! My only suggestion is to try and keep her with you from room to room, but plop her in a carseat or bouncy chair instead of holding her. Try an exersaucer, they are great.
2006-12-27 02:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by helpmeplease 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Right now is an important time for your baby as far as establishing relationships, and social behavior (Matter of fact the first two years are said to be the most important and influencial) Your baby has already established you as their world. And they like the reassurance that you're there with them while they're learning all these neats new things. And we all want to be there. And being there is fine and good. But they do need some time to figure things out themselves. And you need some time to just sit, relax, watch and enjoy your baby as they learn. And it's soooo hard, I know, but the more you allow them to do things independently, and stick out the crying and fussing (Just make sure the basics are taken care of, Hungry? Wet? Too hot/cold? etc.) they will eventually enjoy their time to play and having their independence (but they're still going to want to know where mommy/daddy is so talk with them and check on them and they'll have more fun and reassurance of their independence.) I still have a hard time with it. I'd been suggested to leave my son for 15 minutes,my husband had to gradually make it that length of time, but I can still only stand let him cry for 5 minutes at the most. And also it will get easier as your little peanut gets better control over those little hands and feet and can physically explore things. I know it's soooo stressful, just remember it's normal and it will get easier.
2006-12-27 02:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~The Grays~*~ 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your baby is not spoiled--the fact that your baby does respond that way means that you are doing something right! Our son is 20 months and we held him all the time when he was younger. Now he is very confident and plays well, regardless of whether he's alone or with others. You will appreciate all the love/attention that you are giving her.
2006-12-27 02:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by Gregory W. 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I do not believe a child can be "spoiled" at the age of four months. Your child is actually just not starting to realize how much they can depend on you. And at this age they begin to learn how to ask for things. The need to be held is simply a want for attention, which is perfectly normal. And speaking to them helps them learn how to talk and develope a vocabulary.
2006-12-27 01:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
well I'm not sure that i will be that popular but i think that there is no such thing as a spoiled baby....your 4 month old should be held and talked too all the time....you should invest in a maya wrap they are wonderful...i used one even when vacuuming....you carry your baby around where ever you go....they can even nurse in them....babies need physical touch and interaction to become independent....it does not cause dependence....once they realize that you meet their needs then there is no need for them to cry for hours until they wear themselves to sleep....all you have taught that child is that you did not meet a need of his or hers....Enjoy the moments holding and talking to your baby.....the house will be there for years to come but your baby will grow up so fast and soon those kisses will be pushed from her cheek with tiny hands saying aw mom don't as she runs to her friends cause your not as cool as they are .......
2006-12-27 04:20:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋