I am beginning my first REAL lesbian RELATIONSHIP (not just a one night stand) with a girl i have been friends with for 15 yrs. But i dont know that i want to go without sex with a man FOREVER......and of course i dont want to hurt her....should i just go for it and try? it kinda feels like i am forcing it a little on myself.
2006-12-27 00:49:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The great thing is that you don't have to decide either way. As long as you are honest with your feelings and don't hurt anyone else just be who you want to be! Don't stress, just enjoy your life!
2006-12-27 01:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting a lesbian relationship doesn't mean going without sex with a man forever. And don't force yourself into anything. Go through with the relationship only if you're entirely comfortable with it, you must always do what feels right.
2006-12-27 09:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by Modern Jesus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex with a woman doesn't make you a lesbian nor does it make you in a relationship. Do what feels best for you. I chose to have sex with a woman, I wanted to see what it was like. BUT my choice is to have a relationship with a man. If I want to feel a woman's touch I can do that to BUT I do not label myself. I am enjoying my sexuality with no hang ups of stereo types.
2006-12-27 18:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by whitemonkey1972 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just take it slow, one day at a time. You should definitely talk to her about your feelings since you've been friends for 15 years you should be able to be honest. It's better to confront these issues now then later on down the road and hurting her and ruining your friendship. If you feel you're forcing it on yourself then maybe this isn't really for you. Think about it before you make your final decision.
2006-12-27 09:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by Broken hearted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it...but don't do anything you're not comfortable with...If you feel like you're nervous --that's normal and I would interpret that as a good sign...But if you are being forced into the relationship--just step back and take a longer look at it.
2006-12-27 11:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you consider anything forced perhaps you aren't ready for the relationship.
Starting a relationship with someone is usually because you want to be with them, most don't consider things like "I don't want to give up ______", If you have to look at what you are "giving up" instead of focusing on the object of your affection, I'd say you aren't quite ready for the relationship.
2006-12-27 09:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be true to your partner. That's rule #1. All the rest will follow as it should if you begin with honesty and trust as your foundation.
2006-12-27 09:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,Do not forse yourself to be something your not not sure about!Be Honest with her!If she,s a real friend,She,ll understand!So,if you have to think wether you want to do something or not,Usually the real anwser lyes within!If you really wanted to be something or do something,you would not have to think DO I Want TO!?!Hollywood
2006-12-27 08:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being bi-sexual is fine. Simply tell your partner that you have such feelings. You are not the only person involved, she may surprise you.
2006-12-27 09:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about her then go for it and see if it works out, just make sure she knows that you have your concerns about your situation.
2006-12-27 08:54:58 · answer #10 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋