a few days before Christmas i was using my fiancees computer and i found and was searching for one of my files and i found around 37 porn videos. That have recently been used, i dont mind that much but we havent had sex for almost 2 weeks. My fiancee has also been biteing my head/snapping at me more and more lately. It just does not seem right are these things connected, i dont know why this is?
I have never been a huge fan of porn but i dont mind but the website he got it off he didnt leave on his history, which i would prefer as it seems more honest to me then.
Does anyone know why these things are happening?????? He has been working over Christmas except bank holidays, which has not been easy. Please can someone help me understand why these things have happened?????? we have also been engaged for 10 months now.....
2006-12-26 23:56:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have asked him if he is satified with our sex life an he says he is??????
2006-12-27 00:06:29 · update #1
things is i have been working to much myself, which has not quite helped us, as saturdays i dont finish work till 9- 10 pm. So he does get space away from me a while ago he went away with his mates too.
2006-12-27 02:04:26 · update #2
i enjoy looking at porn too.....i am a 52 year old woman....my husband isnt interested in it at all so i browse the web sometimes..more for photo's than videos...he possibly feels guilty when doing this worrying about your reaction.....maybe it needs bringing out in the open and discussing.
2006-12-28 00:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times men have fantasies that cannot be satisfied by their girlfriends hence the porn. Although its a bit weird to imagine your boyfriend masturbating, its perfectly normal and it really is just a fantasy. Its better that he does that than cheat on you.the lack of sex is normal too unfortunately. Once you've been together a while, its not unusual for couples to go without sex for a week or two, things can get a more comfortable than passionate at times. However, what you mentioned about your boyfriend snapping and stressing sounds to me like he's obviously stressed about something. Its always natural for us girls to assume its something we've done but it could be that he has stress at work - particularly if he's having to work over Christmas. It could be a million different things and yes, it could be that for what ever reason, he is unsatisfied in your relationship. I advise that you really spoil and treat him for one night. Cook him his favourite meal, run him a hot bath and surprise him with some sexy underwear. It doesn't hurt to make a bit of effort sometimes and spice things up! If you still feel like there is a problem and when you speak to him he says theres nothing wrong, then just give him some space.
2006-12-27 08:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex and porn are totally different things - don't make such a big deal out of it!
He cleared his history as masturbation is often a private thing, we don't want people knowing what we fantasise over. Trust your man and give him space to do what he wants to do. There is nothing wrong with what he is doing.
Have you considered that he is feeling trapped by you? If you are checking up on what he is doing online, maybe he feels like you are suspicious and don't trust him. Men don't like to be forced in to corners.
He was been working hard, give him some credit and give him some space to relax.
2006-12-27 08:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your both probably just tired and he has turned to porn to help him get through the rough patch rather than sit down and have a chat about it to you. Sex is an important part of a relationship so you need to sit down and have a chat about it together so you both know what is happening and make some time for sex etc.
2006-12-27 11:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by emmalp75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's biting your head off because he's doing something he doesn't want you to know about. Secrets kill relationships, you'll have to confront him about it and then make the appropriate decision after you've both calmed down.
However, there may well be something else he's hiding earlier than the porn.
Sorry, there's no easy way out of this one.
2006-12-27 08:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by replybysteve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a serious conversation.
It may help to seek a neutral third pasrty, such as Relate
It is far too important to try to settle just on a site such as this.
2006-12-27 09:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately men have urges, the same as we do. if he is spending more time away from you, have you thought he may be having an affair. dont accuse though unless you can get proof, as it always backfires. try being more loving and intimate with him. spend more time together. take time to set the mood. if he is fulfilled he may not get the urge to be watching porn. hope this helps, and good luck.
2006-12-27 08:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by lamyarhull 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds as though something is troubling him he either wants you to be more adventurous or he his seeing someone else. Be careful how you handle the situation if you still want him. Offer to watch the movies with him and see how he reacts.
2006-12-27 09:41:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's sexually frustrated Hun....probably wants somett you can't give him! usually many men in relationships who are bored look at gay porn to see if thats anymore exciting........spice things up a little and make it fun again!
2006-12-27 08:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by JackLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, I'm french and i want speak with you but so you speak french?
2006-12-27 08:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by lilirush 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋