what to do?

Question

i;ve got a two yr old kid.got an abortion done 8 mons bk.i am preg. again.my partner wants the kid.i do not.what should i do now? get aborted again or continue with it?

Answer 1

whatever you do, please do not commit suicide!

Answer 2

When you have unprotected sex, you can get pregnant. I know that you know this. Another abortion is basically out of the question. It could really harm your body and chances at another child later in life. I understand that you do not want it, but if you play, you pay. Have the baby and please use any and all forms of birth control in the future. You are repeating past mistakes and not learning from them. This is not a game. This is life. You cannot treat abortion like it is birth control. You will end up regretting your decision if you abort again. I had one when I was 17. Don't you feel guilty? I know that I do. I only had one other child and have not been able to get pregnant since I had her 13 years ago. I often wonder what would of happened if I had not done what I did. Or if the abortion has caused my lack of pregnancy. Please be an adult about this. Abortion is not always the answer. Birth control was. I wish you luck, you have a big decision to make.

Answer 3

Do you want to have anymore children in the future? If you do then I would consider placing the baby up for adoption, but in that case you run the risk of getting attached to the infant, if your finished with your childbearing then there is no reason you couldn't have an abortion again so soon, but it really wouldn't be fair to your partner if you did. This is a discussion you two should have together and that you both should decide together. But health wise every time you have an abortion, it leaves a little scarring that could cause difficulty in getting pregnant in the future, so if you and your partner want children in the future, you might want to think twice on this one, but as I said before, this is a decision only you and your partner can decide. Good luck, and use protection to prevent this dilemma in the future.

Answer 4

You are in a real dilemma here. If I were you I wouldn't have another abortion. My goodness you just had one 8 months ago. It sounds like that maybe you should get on some sort of birth control or if you don't ever want anymore kids then have a hysterectomy. Abortion isn't a form a birth control. I am sure that your battling this problem so I won't be rude or try and hurt you but, maybe you should think about having the baby and either giving it up for adoption or signing over parental rights and give this baby to your boyfriend. I know that it is your body but, it is also your boyfriends baby and you need to consider his feeling in all of this. Maybe now you will look back and really think of protecting yourself and the unborn babies before having unprotected sex again and then just getting rid of it. I am sure that your going to get many ill remarks so maybe you should read some of the answers you get and then choose your answer and you won't have to add the rude comments to your worries right now but PLEASE PLEASE think it over and really ask yourself why you don't want this baby? Ya know everything happens for a reason.Good Luck to you and I pray that you do the right thing.

Answer 5

Whoa! This should not be, everything is wrong with this picture. Children need a stable home to grow in. That means a Father and a Mother who love them and have the maturity to put up with them. Certain babies try the parents sorely. Sometimes children are all together unlovely. Parents love them not because they are lovable, but because the child desperately needs their love. Mature parents make a decision that come hell or high water, they are going to make sure that brat or that difficult child is loved. You don't do it for anything that benefits you; you do it for your child.
The reality is you are not ready to have children. You are not even married, so that foundation that children need is not there. Best thing you could do if you really feel this way is to give up your two year old "kid", put the new child up for adoption -- the one in your womb, and learn birth control -- I don't say that lightly. Learn all the options for birth control and choose the safest and best.
You are clueless, but you need to know that choices produce consequences. Rash convenient choices always produce bad consequences. You probably are allergic to good choices, but you certainly know what bad consequences are. They are caused by your bad choices. Your own fault. And don't give me that crap about how bad your childhood was. Many of us have some horrendous stories. I know a boy who was beaten with a sharp butcher knife and who was held under water a long time and forced to eat vomit as punishment and who knew only fear and hate as a youngster. He made a decision early in life that he was captain of his own ship. He made the decisions; no one else. He made a decision to refuse to blame his past. Yes, he had issues with anger, but with terrific counseling he overcame. Now he is a parent -- the kind he knows his child needs. If you could talk to him, he would tell you there are no excuses for being a lousy parent. None whatsoever. Of course the difference is that this guy knew how to suck it up when the going got rough. Now the ball is in your court. Let's see what you are made of.

Answer 6

Abortion is not a birth control. Think things through and sit and talk it over with your partner. Get some counselling so you can see the many options you have. Whatever you decide, you need some form of birth control so you don't keep going around in the same vicious circle.

Answer 7

I am divorcing (my final court date is in about two hours) because my soon to be ex wife decided she wanted to abort a child that I really wanted.

Don't have a child that you don't want. Every child deserves a monther that can love them. But, accept that doing this over the objections of your partner is likely to poison the relationship in ways you may not be ready for.

I can say from personal experience, this is a heartbreaking situation. I wish you all the best, whatever happens.

Either way, you really do need to look into a different birth control solution. It's too hard physically and emotionally to keep going through this.

Answer 8

Planned Parenthood offers free birth control. Try it sometimes it works. Abortion is not a form of birth control it is a last resort to a medical deadly pregnancy, where you would die if you kept it. have you thought about adoption I am sure somebody out there that has problems with pregnancy would love to have it, I know I would. Maybe your partner could raise the kid?

Answer 9

Don't get an abortion just because you "don't want the kid". You obviously weren't having safe sex, now this is your responsibility. You need to grow up and talk to your partner about making this work.

Answer 10

Whatever! After you decide what to do, why don't you learn how to use effective birth control. There is no excuse for an unwanted pregnancy and using abortion as a method of "birth control" is just wrong. Shame on you.

Answer 11

If you dont want no more kids stop having unprotected sex, and I think you should keep the baby, dont kill an Innocent.