what is happening to me?

Question

I don't understand it, as most people who are regualr readers and posters on this pregnancy board, they will have known my questions regarding a miscarriage on the 5th Nov. I STILL havent had a period and up until fri the 22nd, had a neg on pregnancy test. days prior to that there were faint lines but at the doc's on the 22nd there wasnt anything, he said if it still hasnt arrived by the 3rd, i should come in for another test.. So why the hell havent I goten aperiod yet as this sunday will make it 8 weeks. Im really confused!

I know that I should be speaking to my GP, but they arent open and I am the type of person who worries alot(probably why I had a miscarriage in the first place),I just want to know what other peole have gone through. I know medical advice is best given from my doc, I just wondered if anyone else had gone through this.

I also have alto of heart burn and a very tender chest area

it was a complete miscarriage, passed naturally and didnt require a d and c, I was between 6 to 7 weeks pregnant when it happened.

To the person who was concerned about my "drinking" , 2glasses of wine were had and unfortunately I am a light weight when it comes to alcohol. I dont often drink, hence the question of "how to get over a hangover". Please dont feel the need to guilt trip me, after going through the miscarriage, I have been through my fair share of guilt to last me a life time. I just felt the need after having been told by the doc that my test was negative, that it was ok to have a glass or two, in actual fact, it was him that told me to do so.

Answer 1

I know you would so love for the pregnancy tests to come back as positive & I can fully understand that after recently having a mis-carriage there's nothing you'd like to hear more than to hear your doc say "you're having another child"

I had a couple of mis-carriages a couple of years ago & the same thing happened to me. I too missed a couple of periods. Be patient with yourself & allow your body to adjust. It’s recently been through quite a lot...both physically & emotionally. A couple of glasses of wine are hardly going to have any detrimental effect even if you were still pregnant. Take no notice of others remarks...you have nothing to feel guilty about Honey....Many Women. wrongly continue to drink alcohol daily & even smoke like a trooper yet somehow their pregnancy continues...not that I'm saying it's fine to do those things...I'm not...what I'm saying is more often than not we blame ourselves for the loss of our child when in fact it's not something we’ve done or didn’t do. More often than not un-healthy Mothers that take all the risks with their pregnancies go on to give birth…not all do but most do…however what they give birth to are children that will experience many health problems one way or the other. Once a pregnancy has taken place it doesn’t actually self-abort that easily…Even IF it were remotely something to do with you...dishing out blame doesn't help the present situation. The very probable reasons for mis-carriages occurring (especially during the first 12 weeks) are the fact that something was amiss (defect of some sort) & it’s the bodies’ way of dealing with it. Yes! Many children are born with many different defects…but you can be glad that at least your body is functioning properly. I know this won’t bring you much comfort right now as I’m sure you would have wanted your pregnancy to continue come what may. Give yourself time to recover this period in your life & ensure that your diet is good & healthy. Make sure you get plenty of rest along with adequate exercise…don’t over-do that though. Be guided by sense & soon you will have got your body ready to conceive once more. You’ll soon be hearing the words you long to hear & when you do…I wish you well.
As for guilt. Drop it & drop it fast…if things have occurred that perhaps you (or I) can reflect on & learn from…fine…but guilt is non-productive & not good for ones health.
Happy New Year Sweetheart, I wish you all the best for your future.

Answer 2

Please do not blame yourself for the miscarriage, your stressing could be putting off you period though. I have had 3 miscarriages and know how painful it is, i think you should just relax and try not to think so much about it all as hard as it may sound but it is usually then that everything works out, My aunty had 23 miscarriages in a seven year period but did not give up once but was very stressed all the time about it all, after 7 years of trying once she relaxed she fell pregnant with twins and now has two beautiful girls. I really hope everything works out for you. Good Luck.

Answer 3

everything is happening because of the stressing time you are going through, even if you don't think too much about it. Your body has to come to normal, give it some time... Sorry for your miscarriage! Take it easy, try to relax and think positive and not in the last, ask for a specialized advice. Now enjoy the wonderful season holidays and be happy! The things will get to normal, I am sure.

Answer 4

I had 4 negative tests before I finally had a postive one. It is really hard to say but you really should not worry about it. I would take pregnancy vitamins as these are good for you anyway if you are trying to get pregnant and relax. Go and see your GP when they open and demand an investigation if you have another negative test.
Explain that you need to know why you are not having periods and these pains etc and they will have to send you to gyny to investigate further but at least this will put your mind at rest.
Good luck

Answer 5

Sorry to hear about the miscarriage.

For most women who have been pregnant, periods return about 6-10 weeks when they are not breastfeeding. My best guess is that even after a miscarriage, the body needs to return to its pre-pregnancy routine & cycle. The stress you are going through right now could be keeping your body from going back to normal. Stress can make our bodies do weird things we wouldn't dream about. You should talk to your ob/gyn about your periods.

Answer 6

i wouldn't stress to much about this, it's normal to have irregular periods, like ur having, well a very late period. i've gone 6months with out a period after i stoped taking the pill , and even tho the doc said that was normal, i still stressed about it, even felt like i was not normal. so maybe by u having this miscarage it's just making your periods wait a little longer then normal. Periods can do strange this sometimes, trust me i know. But if it keeps on making you worried, i do advise u really should go and see you GP...

Answer 7

i had 4 miscarriages b4 i had my two little boys. after this happens your body goes a bit crazy and the stress of everything can stop you from getting your period, My specialist told me that after each miscarriage its best to wait 3 months b4 trying again as this increases your chance of a successful pregnancy. Trust me i know it's hard but when you relax and take care of yourself you'll get your baby.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry you had a miscarriage. This obviously has an emotional and physical effect on your body and it could be your periods will return when you are ready to deal with it. Your body needs time to recover hon. x

Answer 9

Your body will take all the time it needs to recover. Is it posible it is not aware that you had a miscarriage. Was it natural or a D&C sometimes bodies take longer to adjust after a D&C.

Answer 10

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