for men that's cheating on their wives?

Question

why is it that you cheat on your wive's with these women yet you don't want your wife to leave you or get a divorce and you go out of your way to make sure that she does'nt find out about your affair or affairs & you tell these women lies about how your wife is not treating you right and what nots; having the mistress thinking that there is a chance that you and her are going to be together as soon as you and your wife gets divorced knowing damn well your not planning on leaving your wife. answer this for me if you can

i'm just a curious wife and i am sure that there are other wives that would like to know this too especially the one's that are\have been cheated on. thankyou

Answer 1

This question should be rephrased as "for PEOPLE that's cheating on their SIGNIFICANT OTHERS?" As BOTH people do it missy....anyway, those types that cheat in that regard, are the ones most the time haven't cut their playa's card up yet, they need that extra honey, that 'variety' to keep them going instead of being with one woman all their life. Sometimes it's the fire burning out, sometimes it's the peer pressure of being "the man" who can nab any girl he wants. Other times it's the woman, who neglects him, or tears at his pride, or just doesn't want sex....lots of stuff play into it....but what makes them not want to leave their wives a lot of times is SECURITY.

The woman they mess with is a fantasy and nothing more...he has no connection, he can care less who the hell she is...it's just she can bounce her *ss, has a nice *ss, or does something his security wife can't. Why leave the secure household with the loving wife, home, and children, for someone who's probably just as vile as he is? If she's willing to cheat with him..what the hell makes him think she'll be faithful to him?

So it's the selfishness any person who cheats has.....they can't be satisfied with just one...THEY HAVE to have someone else because it "fulfills' them completely or sometimes they just need to 'explore'...which is bullsh*t....you made a promise when you got married, you made known that other person was the one you love for life...so why lie to yourself and steal the other person's joy by nabbing something else for yourself?

And for the one's HELPING this act, especially if they KNEW the act..i mean damn you're willing to be part of the problem, and then you want a RELATIONSHIP? How long did you expect THAT to last? Because then eventually the same sh*t will happen, and he'll want to venture off again cause he needs that 'VARIETY'...big cycle, yet they do it....go figure.

Answer 2

"Contrary to popular belief, most people do not set out to have an affair," said Dr. Shirley Glass, Infidelity Expert and author of the soon to be released book, Not "Just Friends."

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Note that she said, "most people."

To me your question indicates you were the mistress and you're upset about being screwed over. Slight assumption on my part, but a wife wouldn't typically ask this sort of question if the guy had an affair and went back to her after learning his lesson.

If you had an affair with a married man, learn by it. If you were the wife of a man who had an affair, dump him.

My viewpoint is people who have affairs are pitiful. They're arrogant, hurtful and mostly the absolute filth of the earth.

Answer 3

You are right to be angry. Men will forever look at other women. it is instinctive. Some men think a quick cheat will not be detected, not realizing how big a can of worms they are actually opening in their lives. Some guys dont know where to draw the line. its ok to look, because they will but going further is dangerous. A wise man looks admires and walks away - a fool is uncontrollable and influenced easily by what the media spews out at a rapid pace. Men who honor God's law are rare today and even godly men have been known to "Weaken". Its all boiled down to the word TEMPTATION. I think its just weakness and being unable to say NO to the temptresses out there. Didi you know the bible only tells MEN NOT to err in this department, not women. Women instinctively know how to lure men but they know how to restrain themselves better than men do. It all boils down to CHOICE.

What often sets them over the wall are wives who constantly go them and bad mouth them and make them feel insignificant rhough lack of respect. THen when the men run, they cry and turn on all the nastiest moves they could possibly make to get back at them.

My advise to women out there is to read WILD AT HEART by JON ELDREDGE and follow it up with CAPTIVATING by his wife STACI. Another good book is LOVE AND RESPECT which is brilliant and available from most book stores but definitely found in Christian Book Stores.

Instead of being angry, read these books and then follow what they suggest before it is too late. MEn who stray usually go home. You must remember they will be loading the floozie with their baggage and time destroys lustful relationships. What she has stolen cannot build a successful relationship on the painful ground she has created, and for that matter nor can he.

Forgive him so you dont become bitter. Forgiveness is not a feeling but it is a choice. Do the right thing. If he returns dont ever throw the past up in his face. What he did to you is not right, but it happened and rightfully you are angry. You may be angry but dont sin in your anger.

PS I know this story only too well and I did what I have suggested you do and in time I worked through it all and my man did return to me and has never left again.

God bless you.

Answer 4

i could say that maximum men do no longer. Many do, even nonetheless. Too many for MY tastes. that's the precise same way for women human beings as properly. As for myself, I even have never cheated on a woman below ANY circumstances, even when I KNEW that a breakup became impending. I even have constantly waited till the relationshiop became irretrievably carried out with. i be attentive to MANY men who sense precisely as I do approximately those issues and, i think of that greater human beings could flow around carrying out their relationships in this sort. A relationship could and could be geared up on have confidence and appreciate and to "cheat" on your spouse is a betrayal of the two and, no longer an tremendously honorable thank you to stay one's existence. Brightest advantages, Raji the fairway Witch

Answer 5

Apparently you really are a curious wife. A few weeks ago you were asking about finding out that your boyfriend was married, now you're worried that your husband is cheating.

Answer 6

I'm sorry, but what's the actual question?

Granted, I've cheated on my wife in the past, but I always made it a point to say that I had no intention of leaving her, for a mistress or anybody else. It was just sex, and I made sure they knew that.

Answer 7

Sound like someone fell for his lies and is now the bitter other woman.

Look he will tell you just what you want to hear. And if you are dating a married man then you know what, you get what you deserve

Answer 8

Have you stopped to consider the amount of women who do exactly the same these days?
Are you looking at this fairly?

Answer 9

Go to the root cause of the problem. why the need arise to cheat. Is the husband habitual or it is a one time affair. Wives whose Husbands cheat them are themselves to be blamed.

Answer 10

may be u want to try some thing new