I am wanting the best for my kid and this is not the answer for a happy life for him. I am not here to slight people with this lifestyle but I cannot accept this.
2006-12-26 23:06:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There's nothing you can do to influence your kid's sexual orientation. One way or another, you have to learn to accept it and enjoy their life the way it is; be happy for their health, be happy to have them with you for Christmas... There are so many other things you can focus on. Your child will always be a part of you and it's for the best (for both child and parent) if you maintain an open and understanding relationship. Enjoy your family the way it is - it's very precious.
2006-12-26 23:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by baby b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's too bad you can't accept it because that pretty much means you can't accept your child and that's not good--for either one of you. First, you didn't do "everything" for you child. You did your best which is all any of us can do. Second, more than likely, it is NOTHING you did that "made" the kid gay any more than what you did give the kid freckles or eye color. It just is and the kid needs love, compassion, and support. Why do bad things happen to good people? We don't know. Grieve what you aren't going to have and go on.
2006-12-27 07:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to search for a reason. I know you want the best for your son. As I do my children. As a mom I understand your concerns but it shouldn't matter in the least what his sexual orientation is. What matters is that you love him and always will. Acceptance. Would help to talk to a member of the clergy. Or a professional Dr. There is nothing wrong with that. And yes. I am the proud parent of a daughter who is lesbian. My sexual orientation is straight. I wish you the best with this. Happy New Year!
2006-12-27 07:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my aunty went through the same thing when her son announced he was gay
my aunty wont accept it as she raised him right and all the right schools etc (from her saying this) It had caused a big drama in their family etc but she has learned to come to terms with it.
although you may not approve .. he is still your son and you need to continue to love, respect and accept the choices he makes even if they dont agree with your choices etc
its hard to go through something like that but there is nothing to say he wont have a happy life
Let him be - who knows, sometimes its just a stage people are going through to realise their sexuality, other times, its a lifestyle change that are happy with.
He is your son .. love him dearly (regardless of sexuality) and trust that God will watch over you all.
2006-12-27 07:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by DeeDee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean you cant accept it. He is your son. being gay is not a choice men and women make and I am sure if it were a choice most wouldnt choose it because society still has a long way to go on that subject. As a mother myself if my child told me he or she were gay i would accept it and love them more if that was possible. If I were you i would be questioning myself on what sort of a person you are. I feel sorry for your son having to deal with you, the person who is meant to love and accept him no matter what.
2006-12-27 07:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should accept it. That kid did not choose being gay anymore than you chose to be straight, if you are. So you'll have to accept it if you ever loved your child. I must add: some of the very best human beings I have ever had the pleasure of meeting have been gay. More and more people in the world have become enlightened. Become one of them, not one of those living in fear of anything a little different than themselves. We all just need love.
2006-12-27 07:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So as long as you thought he was straight then he turned out ok. But since he came out to you(do you really think it was easy for him? Already knowing how you'll react?), all of a sudden his entire life is now invalid? WTF is YOUR problem? Your certainly not the kind of father he though you were. Do you wonder how far you've fallen in your son's eyes? Your son's the one that has to live with the daily insults and threats not YOU. He's not asking you to come watch his bedroom behavior. He wants the love and support from his father that he deserves as your son..
2006-12-27 07:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gay child will live happy life when people will start accepting differences. What is important in our lives is to be happy. We should all start concerning for our lives and be less disturbed about happiness or unhappiness of others. We are and our life is how we made it. None else will help you in your life path. So, why should we be bode red about others opinions.
If you will not support him, he has the whole right to exclude you from his life. World is too difficult to do everything that OTHER please.
2006-12-27 07:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by Nelli 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately for you,a persons sexual preference is not by choice but by nature.It sounds to me that he was brave enough to build up the courage to tell you,understanding and support is probably what he's after.Your ideals have to be in touch with reality at hand.
2006-12-27 07:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by Eat My Shorts 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you're gonna have to accept it...if you fight him on this then for sure his life will be one of misery.....just do the best you can to prepare him for his adult life...good manners, good education, respect fellow man........find sites for parents with underage gay children maybe it will help you better understand his choice...good luck...
2006-12-27 07:16:33 · answer #10 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋