she will start from the time we git out of bed about simple things like taking to long to get readyfor work or eating to slow go to the movies tells me not to laught when i do the washing up the waters to cold or i dont wipe the plates dry all just to start arguments i am at my wits end and loosing my temper and arguing back which makes here worse do i leave or just grin and bear it
2006-12-26 22:39:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you know what is she not going through menopause. it is a hormonal imbalance that makes women behave irrationally. When last has she been for a hormone test and if never I think its time to go. Tolerate her. 32 years long is amazing. Dont quit now. Its lonely out there and o one will replace the one who made it so far with you. Get help for her and discuss the matter in a dignified way with her.
Good luck to you both.
2006-12-26 23:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may well be dealing with a wife that is having trouble adjusting to having completed most of her life's work. The children are raised and out of the house, the home is as you two want it, and your life together is just you two. She no longer has to be a ref for kid squabbles, a schoolwork tutor, or an after school taxi driver. She's been there, and done that. Sooo, now what? That IS the question your wife is trying to figure out. So, help her find something that will help her utilize the skills and talents she's been developing and using for the last 32 years. I can't help there, but YOU can. You know the lady. Help her discover her next project. Pal, any woman that can stay married to an old fart like us, (57 here), deserves all the credit and help we can manage. You are to be envied. You still have the hot sexy girl you married 32 years ago. So, enjoy life. AND stop taking so long to get ready for work, eat faster, don't laugh out loud at movies, use hotter water for dishes, and wipe the plates dry. And yes, just grin and bear it.
2006-12-27 00:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a loving discussion with her... Kindly tell her how you feel and ask if something's wrong. She could be going through something that, for some reason, she feels she can't tell you. Encourage her to open up and assure her that, whatever may be going on, she can tell you about it and that the two of you will work together to try to solve the problem.
It could be that she's pre-menopausal, which will eventually end. If this is the case, just try to be as patient, loving, and understanding as you possibly can.
2006-12-26 22:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by SINDY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with her and ask her what is really bothering her. She could be going through menopause....believe me it is a rotten thing to go through. All kinds of stuff is happening to her...physically and emotionally. And her starting arguments with you could be a way of her handling it, which isn't good on you. When she starts an argument, try to take her by the hand and tell her you love her.
2006-12-26 22:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears that you would not have noticed about her niggling you earlier. I believe she had this habit earlier also but now the frequency might have increased and you might have become more impatient. You just hold on and keep quite, let her speak - react on her statements after the issue cools down. Don't react immediately, and then see the results.
2006-12-26 23:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by dipaks262006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put some dishwashing gloves on and make sure the water is really hot.Sounds like you dont wash the dishes properly leaving krust on them.!! Maybe she wants you to pay her a bit of attention aswell
2006-12-26 22:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by scar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
washing dishes in cold water you are asking for food poisoning only hot water can get all the germs out properly. I think there is more to it that that look how much she has put up with for 32 years and said absolutely nothing. Be happy she has done that and be more considerate she stayed with you.
2006-12-26 22:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She's arguing about "safe" things insterad of the real issue. If you can't get to the real one, there aren't many options left. Counseling might help get to the real problem.
2006-12-26 23:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your wife? Menopause, perhaps? Has she retired recently or stopped working? Any major changes in her life, or yours?
How about you? Have you noticed that you are forgetting things?
2006-12-26 22:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by know_it_all_NOT 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Save the arguments for the Big Issues.....
When she is niggling just say crabby, crabby in a high voice and smile........
2006-12-26 22:46:55 · answer #10 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋