Women gets pregnant after only dating a guy for 2months. She then ends the relationship. She has an abortion. Does the father really need to know?
Surely this would only cause problems, if the women has made her mind up.
I personally dont think he needs to know, just wondering what everyone else thinks.........
2006-12-26 21:42:26 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You should have told him you were pregnant. It was wrong of you to decide to kill his baby without telling him. But you did it. I hope you can live with that. Doesn't matter how many times people tell you that it wasn't a baby, you know better. And you know that baby was his too. He had a right to know before you killed the child. Maybe you would have been more human about it and took it full term and he would have wanted his baby or you could have given it up for adoption. But you killed the baby. Live with it. Tell him. Maybe he is like you and won't care that you murdered his child.
Dane: You are a true gentleman.
2006-12-26 21:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by skooter 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
No I dont think the father has the right to know. At the end of the day the baby is growing in the woman, so ultimately she has to do what she feels is right for her. However I dont think abortions should just be an easy answer out of it. Try using contraception and if that fails, the morning after pill, to avoid it happening in the first place.
2006-12-29 00:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by megz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes b coz the father might want a child and just b coz the women has the child inside her doens't mean she can do whatever with the innocent life of the child. The father is the main reason we get the happinness of becoming a mother but few selfish women don't see this so this means that the father has a right to know everything and the unborn child.
2006-12-29 04:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that 'the woman' is the only person that can truly know the right answer to this question. After all only she would know what her conscience told her to do. If she feels that its better to 'leave sleeping dogs lie' and not mention it to him then it may be likely that this is the best course of action. Perhaps she could contact an abortion or miscarriage helpline and talk about her feelings and situation, this might help clarify her feelings. Whatever she decides to do I hope that she can continue the healing process and not ever feel bad about what she felt she needed to do.
2006-12-28 23:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think if the relationship is well and truly over there is no point in telling him, I personally dont approve of abortions, but I dont have the problem some people do with being pregnant, so for the best all round I think ...no..dont tell him..just get on with your lives the best and happiest way round for everyone.
2006-12-29 01:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an emotional minefield and the answer is personal choice. I wouldn't tell him but many others would. It's impossible to go into the rights of the father concerning his unborn child on Yahoo Answers. If it's a dilemma you face, I'd say do what is right for you. There are no right or wrong answers.
2006-12-26 21:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by katieplatie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of my best friends is the 'father' in a story like this. he was heart broken, yea sure he hadn't wanted a baby, but he wished he could have been there for the woman, and prehaps they would have had the baby. either way, he now distrusts nearly all women because of the cowerdice this one woman showed to him. the father has a right to kno, but what the mother does with the child is really up to her as its her body
2006-12-30 08:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by evilbunnyhahaha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't tell him (if that is what you want) if you are sure he won't find out from someone else! If it is later revealed by somebody else that you aborted his child it may come back on you. If you think he is likely to find out elsewhere then tell him, but explain why you had to do it without being harsh towards his feelings.
2006-12-28 12:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by HayKay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he needs to know. The relationship is pretty much done. There is no reason to stir things up by telling him that you aborted his child. If he never knew you were prego in the first place, then it won't hurt him to let this pass him by.
2006-12-26 21:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by Asia_Unscripted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I'd like to know, and I'd feel obliged to send boxes of chocolates and flowers to the girl, to regret what has happened.
Even if there is no relationship, the fetus is still something that belongs to them both, and it should be shared. Even if it was aborted soon after.
I understand it can be a difficult decision to the woman, and even if she dumped me the week before, I'd be honour-bound to support her to make a decision.
2006-12-26 21:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by dane 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋