I am told by many people including my so's family that I should just accept his demands and accept a subservient position because my so (signif other) goes to work to "support me and my child" lately.
The thing is that I run a small buisness and am well off financially.
I pay fr my half of exspences and 90% of my child exspenses plus have money left over for him to borrow. I am getting sick of people telling me he is working for me and my child.
He has even discounted my money because he says its not areal job. ( I make and sell jewelry). How do i tell or ask these people to stop telling me that he works for me and my child. I have a job i just work from home. I am really getting sick of the you dont really work attitude. ( I am never broke , i always have money pay more than my half of expenses).
2006-12-26 21:19:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It shouldn't matter who works marriage is a partnership. Perhaps you should tell them how well your business is doing, maybe they just aren't aware? You could say something like wow I'm so excited my business grew and I brought home such and such amount this year. Or something to that effect.
He should not be discounting your money because he doesn't consider it a real job, sounds to me like he has some real insecurity issues.
Marriage is a partnership perhaps some counseling could help the situation between you and your husband before too much resentment comes between both of you.
I wish you all the best, some people just can't grasp that a home business can make money and that you really do work. We have a contracting business I handle all the designs, paperwork, estimates, billing, etc. Recently a family member made the comment of how my husband does all the work and I just push paper.. Hello how do they know what I do or don't do? So I get your frustration, I really do!
2006-12-26 21:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the truth. Nobody else can see it because unfortunatley most people think you have to work outside the home to have a real job. They are wrong. You should never accept a subservient position. Even if he WAS supporting you and your child, which he IS NOT. You need to take control of your future and dont let anyone push you around. You are a talented entrepreneur (did I spell that right?) You need to have confidence in what you are doing. These people are ignorant. Its none of their business anyway. If your guy treats you bad, you should leave him. I know that it is easier said than done, but you cant let him continue his emotional abuse of you because it will affect your ability as a mom. Good luck to you.
2006-12-27 05:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of couples are in your position. Very touchy about who is the 'breadwinner', who makes the most money etc. What sort of a subservient position does your partner and his family have in mind for you? This sounds a bit creepy. It sounds like earning capacity is being used as a power play in this relationship. This is not good. Try and communicate with your partner, I feel there will trouble down the track otherwise
2006-12-27 05:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should tell yor partner firstly that relationships are all about equallity and no-one has any kind of position ie.subservient or otherwise.If they were real friends they would see him for what he is an schovanistic pig
2006-12-27 05:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by jafsil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your Significant Other to these people to mind their own business. Yes, he works for the family as do you. It isn't you or him, it is both of you.
2006-12-27 07:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋