I am a married mother of two boys who just recently lost a baby girl born to early 9/29/06. I am considering a tubal ligation. Do you think this is a good idea? I will be 32 soon.
2006-12-26 21:01:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
sorry to hear the loss, but i feel you should not come to an conculsion so soon, their are many other options, if after some months you feel like having a bab, than??
2006-12-26 21:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by Richa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait a while. You're still grieving for the baby you lost, which might affect your judgement. Don't get a tubal ligation if there is any chance that you'll want another baby. If you have any doubt at all, chances are that you'll end up regretting the tubal. Sometimes they are reversible, but that's really expensive and doesn't always work. I had my tubes tied after I had my second child, because of health reasons, and even though I know it was necessary, I still grieve for the lost possibility of more children.
Before you make any decision, read about "post-tubal ligation syndrome". You might consider, if you decide sterilization is the option for you, asking your husband to have a vasectomy instead. It's a simpler procedure and has a lower failure rate.
2006-12-26 21:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by Judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your loss.
A tubal ligation is too permanent to consider right now. It has only been 3 months, and you need more time than that to grieve. The loss of a child is horrible. All kinds of thoughts and emotions will be going through you and your family for several months. Give yourself more time before you make this decision. If and when you do make this decision, be sure that your husband or significant other is a part of that decision, because if affects you both.
2006-12-26 23:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please accept my condolence for the loss of your baby daughter. You are still dealing with your grief and the though of another pregnancy probably scares you. I would like to suggest that you put off the tubal ligation until you are certain this is what you really want. In the mean time, use another form of birth control and think this matter over carefully. You will know when you are ready to make the decision because you won't need to ask anyone for advise. Again, I'm very sorry for your loss.
2006-12-26 21:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by marilynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really difficult decision to make and deserves great consideration. I would give yourself at least a year before you decide. The grieving process is a long one and can effect your decisions in many ways. Some will say that since you already have two children it doesn't matter if you have anymore, but that's just not true. I think you should wait a year and then talk it over with your husband and see where you both are at that point. I'm very sorry for your loss and wish you the best :)
2006-12-27 02:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss. Are you wanting your tubes tied because you are done with having kids or are you afraid that if you become pregnant again what happened to your daughter will happen again?
Think long and hard about this before signing on the line.
I am 27 years old with one son and i still haven't had mine tied cause i can't seem to make up my mind if i want to have another baby or not. I had a chance to have my tubes tied when i had my son (But i backed out because he was early) I had signed the papers a month before but told them no don't tie them. I was 21 at the time. I don't know if i should now or not.
This is a big decision cause once you have them tied that is it but then again you can have your tubes untied but there is a 50/50 chance that you may get pregnant again.
Good luck to you
2006-12-26 21:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is worth considering...after such a heartbreaker, it would be difficult to even think of having another child...but you need to be SURE that you don't want to try again...it would be awful to go through a tubal only to change your mind in a year or two...
((((((HUGS))))))
2006-12-26 21:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by BraidyLocks 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Only if you are absolutely sure you do not want to get pregnant again. I would give it some more time before you decide.
2006-12-26 22:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, there are several birth control options that are very effective and not as permanent or as expensive.
keep your options open
2006-12-26 21:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-12-26 21:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋